MIL advice

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
2252 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Ugh, that is so frustrating! I’m sorry you’re going through this! Personally, I feel like you have taken the best approach here which is just to ignore it and let your husband deal with it. If you react or confront her about it, that’s what she wants. Clearly everyone in the family has asked her to stop and she’s not going to so just continue to ignore it. If she doesn’t get a reaction, hopefully she’ll get bored and stop. 

I know it’s easier said than done, especially when you just want to scream at her to leave it alone! But just continue to ignore it and act like it doesn’t bother you. 

Post # 4
1142 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

This would bother me. You say you met him 3 years after they broke up and you’ve been together for 6 now. Which means, 9 years later and this woman still hasn’t let go? And his mother is enabling it. I wouldn’t let her watch your dog anymore, for starters. And honestly, I don’t think I’d want her (MIL) around me either. You have every right to be weirded out by this….because it isn’t normal! 

Post # 6
2043 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

The only thing I can say is the Mother-In-Law herself hasn’t gotten over the breakup.  These are small, insidious acts that you think make you look crazy if you say them out loud to other people.   You are neither crazy or petty bee! 

Mother-In-Law is stomping all over the boundaries DH is trying to set and there needs to be consequences for those violations….maybe like cutting her off again and hiring a sitter or dog walker.   

Bright side???  It actually might stop if you two decide to have children.

Post # 7
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I almost feel bad for the ex, as Mother-In-Law is sort of stringing her along and enabling her to not move on! That being said, ex needs to get a life and move on from your husband and the dog. And Mother-In-Law needs to get a life even more and find a hobby or some shit because meddling in your son’s life/marriage by sneakily incorporating his ex is just mean to all parties involved. Im sorry bee! This sucks. Tell your husband that if she won’t stop with this shit, you don’t want to see her as much.

Post # 8
4071 posts
Honey bee

That’s seriously cuckoo cachoo of your Mother-In-Law. This poor ex is being strung along by your Mother-In-Law of all people. She’s probably filling her head with false hope that someday they may get back together. I’m sorry, I don’t think it’s petty at all, but instead very nasty of your Mother-In-Law to do this to you, your H, and his ex. It benefits literally no one. I have no good advice, as it sounds like neither the Mother-In-Law or ex has any interest in listening to your feelings or your husband’s. No matter what, any confrontation should come from your husband though, not you. 

Post # 9
360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

You are zen goals. Kudos to you for keeping your cool!

Post # 10
760 posts
Busy bee

LOL I know Bee – so chill! I think you have the right attitude. She’s like an annoying wasp. It’s best to just ignore her..if you start swatting, you’ll only get her and yourself in a tizz. Hopefully she’ll get bored and fly away..

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