Post # 1
We have a 4 year old greyhound rescue, Lily. She’s beautiful, and because she’s a greyhound (lazy and doesn’t make much noise), everyone loves her. The ILs love her almost too much. Darling Husband and I have been married 4 weeks tomorrow, and they kept her for our honeymoon. When we got back, we left her there for a couple days to have the house to ourselves. They called the day we got back and talked about her for an hour. Didn’t ask how the honeymoon was. When we went to get Lily, we sat for 3 hours and listened to them talk about how awesome she is, and how smart (she’s not), and how good. She just doesn’t do anything bad because she is always asleep, and they’re used to Jack Russells.
This is annoying, but not the problem. The problem is that behaviors we consider unacceptable, they think are cute. Future Mother-In-Law talks about how funny it is that Lily will walk into their kitchen and grab things off the counter. That’s not cute. And they let her on the couch, and tell me maybe she’d like me more if I let her on the couch at home. I don’t like dogs on the furniture. Now we’re having to deal with it at home. She never did these things, but since she’s allowed to at their house, she’s doing it here. The counter I can try to fix, but she sneaks on the couch at night now while we’re asleep, and how do I fix that? Not to mention she paws at things she sleeps on, and I think it’s starting to tear up our couch. Darling Husband says to ask them to stop letting her on their couch, but his father is the kind that will let her do it just when we aren’t there. I dunno what to do, because training’s gonna be difficult if they’re undermining me.
Post # 3
chairs on the couches at night… or anything big. I personally don’t let my dogs stay with people who can’t follow the rules just for that reason. How about having someone else watch her when you are gone?
Post # 4
@JRL2012: agreed. Tell his parents if they can’t respect your rules, then they will no longer be able to watch her for you
Post # 5
@sweetpea87: Our dogs know our house rules. When they go to Grandma’s, they know they have no rules. This is only a problem if you let it be. Dogs are smarter than you might realize and can know the difference between two houses. Sometimes they’ll come home after we’ve been on vacation and try to get away with a few things, but we immediately discipline them and they quickly shape up. I like that they can go run around and act like real dogs at Grandma’s, and she has other dogs, so I know they’re having a good time, but we make absolutely sure that they know once they walk into our house, they better not even look at the couch!
They are both 6 now, and stay with my Mother-In-Law frequently, so they very rarely act up once they get home anymore. They know we mean business and Grandma means fun.
Post # 6
@JRL2012: and @MrsSl82be: I would love to do this. But it’d be inconvenient for anyone else to watch her. They call us specifically to ask if we can bring her over on our Saturday visits (not anymore), and if they can watch her when we go away. It’d be so awkward to say no, but my couch… I’m gonna have to talk to them. -_-
@pinky44: I know she can learn the difference, but we’re still on preliminary training. Like her name, and come. I’d like to get her to know basic rules first, then learn the exceptions.
Post # 7
That s*cks. I had similar issues with my parents and my dog. When I first had my dog he never begged (well except when he knew he I was near the treat jar). He was so good for 2 years. He never had people food so he never saw the need to beg for it. He also was not allowed on the furniture, he had his own furniture. Well he was allowed on the bed in the morning and thats it. I switched jobs and started to levae him at my parents and now he begs, lays all over the furniture etc. He’s better at home, and is better about obeying the rules but when he goes over my parents’ house he gets the “grand-kid treatment” and is basically allowed to do whatever and gets stuffed with cheese. *sigh*. I’ve just kept my mouth shut because I would rather have them watch him than anyone else. As far as the couch thing goes, I would ask them to not let her on the couch, and I would probably make the cushions into barracades at night at your own place. Taking food off the counter is never fine and I would voice this to them especially. She could swipe something dangerous like chocolate or grapes. Maybe if you explain to them that this is opening the gateway for such things to happen they’ll stop it. I know greyhounds usually suffer from sore joints and stuff, esp. rescued ones, does she have a nice comfy bed of her own? I have a bed for my dog on both floors of the house since he likes to be near his human, that way he always has a place to lay. Oh, and my dog has learned the difference between the two houses and knows he doesn’t get so much liberty when he’s home.
Post # 8
My mom swears by putting a sheet of aluminum foil on the couch while she is away. When she gets home, she just folds up the sheet up and puts it under the couch until the next day. She claims that something about the sound or feeling of the dogs nails on tinfoil acts as a deterrent and they stay off the couch.
I know that does address the root problem, but its an easy and cheap way to keep the dog off the couch until you figure out what to do.
Post # 9
@owlandpebble: I’m gonna try the foil!
@nickels: If they start feeding her, that’ll be a huge problem with me. They let their dog lick their plates, but Lily still doesn’t beg, so I don’t think they let her. And she’s got beds. Soooo many beds. Haha. Big cushy ones. But not as big and cushy as the couch. *sigh*
Post # 10
Go to drs. foster and smith website-they have these scat mats to put on your couch-they give the dogs a mild harmless shock when they get on the couch. That should stop the behavior. But I would not let the dog go to your IL’s if they can’t follow the rules. My family/friends know they have to upload how we trained our dogs or they don’t get to watch her. Also, crate your dog at night so she can’t get on the couch.