(Closed) MIL Calling Behind My Back

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I be irritated by MIL calling son behind my back
    yes : (11 votes)
    14 %
    no : (55 votes)
    71 %
    maybe - explain : (11 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    She’s a fucking bitch

    maybe this is why she phones her son while you are not there

    i think calling every day is a too much but its your husbands responsiblity to decide if he wants to speak to her or not. if she is trash talking about you then your husband needs to man up and say “im not going to listen to that, this conversation is finished, i love you but im hanging up now”

     otherwise i think she has the right to phone her son until her son decides otherwise

     

    Post # 4
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    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I am not sure I would be pissed about it if it were me obviously there is some history here that we are not privy to.

    Post # 5
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    1645 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Could it be that she’s trying to give you and your husband alone time without interupting when you are together on weekends and feels that he has more down time during the week to talk? If she was calling when you weren’t there to talk smack about you, then I’d be upset. But if she just wants to talk to her son, I’d let it go. It doesn’t sound like she’s doing anything wrong.

    Post # 6
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    1645 posts
    Bumble bee

    Maybe waiting till you’re gone is acting shady, but in the end he is her son. She’s allowed to call him. Now what he allows her to say about you to him is HIS problem, but you can’t sever communication between them.

    Post # 7
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    1303 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    She’s a fucking bitch


    hahahaha, this made me laugh.  You are maaaaaaddddddd

    Post # 8
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    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted no.  She reminds me of someone I know.  That young man sees how wierd this behavior is, and humors her.  And there it is in a nutshell.  She’s a nut.  Take the high road and don’t offend.  Everyone will know the truth fairly soon.

    Post # 9
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    10287 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    By the tone of your post and your referring to her as a “fucking bitch“, I can understand why she wouldn’t want to call when you are around. We don’t know all of the details of your relationship but either way you hack it, your husband is her son and she has a right to talk to him with or without you there. 

    Post # 10
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    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @mrstilly: exactly what i was thinking! my first thought was, maybe she’s not calling when you’re there in order to not interrupt your time with your SO.

    but of course, there could be a huge background we don’t know about

    Post # 11
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    317 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My husband and I work opposite shifts–I’m the 9-6 and he’s the 3-midnight, so even though we live together, we really only spend time together on the weekends. My mom and I are super close and talk every night–but she never calls me on the weekends. To her, spending time with my husband should be #1 priority and she doesn’t want to interrupt that. If she knows that he has to work an extra weekend shift, she’ll call me on a weekend night.  My husband knows why she only calls when he’s not around and he knows that it’s nothing against him personally (he knows that my mom adores him anyway).

     

    Post # 13
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    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Yep- passive aggressive type there.  My best wishes-  seriously.  They’ll talk behind your back, and you can’t do anything right where they’re concerned.  Get as far away as you can.

    Post # 14
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    So in fact she doesn’t really know that I can’t stand her

    hehehe i would place a safe bet that she is aware of your feelings – your animosity seems pretty obvious and people can tell when bad feelings are brewing (not saying its your fault or hers)

     

     

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly I feel like either I’m missing some information of the history between you guys or her personality or something, because my parents tend to call when they know my FH is at work so I’ll have more time to talk to them.  I think I’m missing something though.  From what I can tell she may be respecting your time together like others have said.

    Post # 16
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    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    She probably calls behind your back b/c she knows you don’t like her.  Unless you don’t want your Darling Husband to have a relationship with his mom, who cares?  It’s probably better that you don’t have to deal with her.  You should trust your Darling Husband that she isn’t talking about you.

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