- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Yeah, it shocked us both. She has been in remission from breast cancer for 6 years and now its back in her bones. They seem to have caught it early which is a great sign but you know…its CANCER and its secondary cancer which means it cant be cured, only treated.
So, my fiance is devistated. He is an only child and his Mum is his rock, they are very close. My parents live in Australia, I dont get to see them that often so his Mum had been like a second mother to me too. FH has been through this before, when she first diagnosed in 2006 (she had recovered by the time FH and I met) so I know its going to be a stressfull few years. I dont know what to do, I know Im going to have to support him when times get hard I just dont know how? Does that sound stupid? I mean, ofcourse i’ll be there for him but what else do i do? Theres nothing I can do to help!
Mother-In-Law is a very strong woman and she seems to be taking it better than everyone else around her but she hates to see her son and husband upset so she tends to make light of the situation and I think that has calmed my fiance a bit. I sometimes feels that she doesnt say everything so to stop people freaking out.
I feel overwhelmed with sadness for this family. Father-In-Law parents boths died from cancer when he was young, Mother-In-Law and FH went through life saving surgury in 2006 and now this has happened again. Mother-In-Law is going away for a week for work and so I think FH is going to stay with his Dad so he doesnt mull it over too much or get too lonely.
I dont know what I meant by writing this post. Advice? I just need to be able to tell someone without bursting into tears. We’re both focusing on the positives and there a a lot of positives in terms of treatment but its unknown. FH asked a million questions about the cancer that she just cant answer, so its the unknown that is the worst part.