(Closed) MIL criticizes my wedding decisions behind my back

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

No, but my FGMIL (future grandmother-in-law) pretty much thinks she knows everything even though she hasn’t helped plan a wedding since the 80’s. And she thinks we should be getting married in her backyard.

Post # 4
116 posts
Blushing bee

@jackndiane: Yes I would get that from my Future Mother-In-Law but after a while I said to myself “F IT!”. Yes it can get really bad at times because Future Mother-In-Law is very opinionate but will keep her negativity to herself because I will not sit there and take it.

 FI is Indian and I am Mexican and she is always making up this Indian rules that I have to do for the wedding. When I ask Fiance and my Indian friend about these, they all look at me like I am crazy. She told Fiance aunt since I turned down any financial help from her she found another way to try to control the wedding.

What a silly lady! Since I found that out I have just been telling her “NO” to everything she suggests mainly out of spite! Lol

 I told her over the thanksgiving holiday that her idea was good and maybe she and Future Father-In-Law should renew their vows and use all of her “great ideas”.

Of course she threw a fit! But I just don’t care anymore. This is the only time in my life I will be a bride….. The one thing that I have planned when I was a little girl and I am not going to let anyone ruin it for us.


Post # 5
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law criticizes everything we do too.  I wish she would do it behind our backs though.  Instead, she just tells us to our faces.  She doesn’t like my dress, she hates my purple shoes (wedding shoes should match the dress you know!), she hates my headband.  She thinks we should have a band instead of a DJ.  She doesn’t like that we’re doing all the pictures before the ceremony.  She thinks is cheap that we’re doing a BBQ buffet for dinner.  But you know what?  Too freaking bad.  This wedding is not about the in-laws, right?!  Don’t take anything too personally.

Post # 6
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know how you’re feeling. My Future Mother-In-Law does it to our faces. It’s hard, but you have to shake it off. Ultimately, your choices should make you and your Fiance happy! Forget about grumpy future relatives. 🙂 

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