MIL dig about crop tops

posted 4 months ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
60 posts
Worker bee

She wasn’t talking about you at all. There’s a big difference between working out in a crop top and wearing a crop top dress to prom. In my opinion, the dresses that are like that are less formal and I just don’t see the appeal. I wouldn’t worry about yourself though. You probably work hard and should show it off every once in a while!

Post # 3
703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Well, either way, you really need to let this go. This is a non-issue. 

Post # 4
2385 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris

It might have been an underhanded comment your way. Or she may have made the comment because she can no longer rock a crop top herself. It’s hard to say. I would keep doing your thing bee.

Post # 6
1619 posts
Bumble bee

You still don’t know that it was a dig at you.  You’re personalizing her comment.  Maybe it’s just general commentary about how she feels it is a young style and fashionable choice for her niece with no intended commentary about anyone else who wears it.  Maybe she saw a celebrity older than you wearing crop tops.  Maybe she saw crop tops being featured on a show featuring someone older than she thought appropriate.  Crop tops are everywhere these days because apparently we just didn’t get enough of them in the 90s.  Stop borrowing trouble.

Post # 8
2717 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

gatsbymermaid :  “age appropriate MIL? Huh, I always thought it was about whether or not you could pull it off…”


Leave it open to interpretation and she’ll project her own insecurities there and think that you’re taking a jab at her. 😉 



Post # 9
6249 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

if it wasn’t a dig at you, you’re getting worked up over nothing.

if it was a dig at you, you’re letting her win.

Better to drop it–go work out maybe, I find that helps me let go of things that are sticking in my head.

Post # 10
1963 posts
Buzzing bee

If you think THAT innocuous comment was worth your reaction it’s time to give yourself a big dose of “what I wear is strictly up to me and unrequested opinions are not something I have to internalize or respond to”.

You’re 28, so prove it. Ignore her.

Post # 11
2941 posts
Sugar bee

gatsbymermaid :  It was a dig. She’s entitled to her opinion and you’re entitled to keep wearing whatever you want. If you look good in it, wear it!

Post # 12
1696 posts
Bumble bee

I also would assume it was a dig. But you’re an adult; wear what you want. To me personally, I do find crop tops inappropriate past college years, regardless of your body type.

Post # 13
386 posts
Helper bee

gatsbymermaid :  Your MIL is one of many people who find grown women wearing crop tops inappropriate.  It’s more surprising that she’s the first person who’s commented about it.  If you don’t care what people think and go on with your life instead of asking internet strangers to validate your fashion choices. 

Post # 14
476 posts
Helper bee

your MIL is easier going than me!!! I don’t think crop tops are appropriate for a human of either sex of any age … just not my cup of tea. I usually keep this to myself however, since I assume most people don’t care what I think … your MIL wins the gold medal for passive aggression, tho. 

Post # 15
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

I love cute tops of all shapes and sizes and dont really know whatʻs considered a crop top anymore so I may not have even noticed what she said 

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