Post # 1
So my Maid/Matron of Honor is plannng my bachlorette party but my Mother-In-Law asked me a while back if I knew what “we” would be doing? Isn’t it strange for her to think she is invited? She is 50 something but acts very young at heart, she still goes to bars and stuff. Isn’t it suppose to be a girlfriend thing?
And by “we” she also thinks this includes her sister, my future aunt. I’m planning on telling her my Maid/Matron of Honor is planning everything and I know nothing about any of it so i don’t have to invite her and i know my bestie Maid/Matron of Honor won’t invite her either. I love love love my Mother-In-Law, we even used to work together so we are close but i dont want her there on my bar hopping wild party night. Are we right to not invite her even though she wants to come? My mom doesnt expect to come.
Also, i was planning on maybe dinner with the moms and stuff but then us young girls can continue the pary but how do i let her know she isnt invited for the fun stuff?
Post # 3
What about doing dinner with everyone on Friday night and then on Saturday night go out with the girls?
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
oh that’s tough!! A dinner with the moms sounds good. I think you should put it to her gently but firmly that you really wanted the experience to be with your girlfriends and bridesmaids, and that you’d still love to include her in the evening, but just not while you’re getting crazy!!
Or you could always lie, say that you’re doing something super low-key, then plan the bachelorette for another night!
Post # 5
I don’t think you need to invite the ‘older generation’. Your bachelorette is more of a girldriend type thing I think. Having a lunch or afternoon tea with your Mum, Mother-In-Law, MIL sister, aunts, grandmother etc. is a nice idea.
If she asks again, just say something like ‘I know my girlfriends are looking forward to my bachelorette party, I am too, but it will be so nice having (brunch/lunch/afternoon tea) with you, and the rest of the ladies in my family!’
That way you make clear that she isn’t invited, but you haven’t forgotten her.
Post # 6
Well, can you guys plan a bachelorette kinda party for your Mom’s and the Aunt for one day, include a few close friends, then do your real girls night another time? I would never feel right telling my Future Mother-In-Law she wasn’t invited, so the only other remedy was to still do something with her, a pseudo-bachelorette party.
Post # 7
Thanks girlys! I think I will plan on a dinner with everyone on one night and then a party night with my chickys!
Post # 8
I think that’s good thinking. I agree with jennifer espos.
Post # 9
I think its great that she wants to go, but I dont know if that would be the best time for her to be there. Let your Maid/Matron of Honor know to “lose” her invitation or keep her party and your party separate.