(Closed) MIL Drama! Heeeelp!

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What about doing dinner with everyone on Friday night and then on Saturday night go out with the girls?  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

oh that’s tough!!  A dinner with the moms sounds good.  I think you should put it to her gently but firmly that you really wanted the experience to be with your girlfriends and bridesmaids, and that you’d still love to include her in the evening, but just not while you’re getting crazy!!

Or you could always lie, say that you’re doing something super low-key, then plan the bachelorette for another night!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think you need to invite the ‘older generation’. Your bachelorette is more of a girldriend type thing I think. Having a lunch or afternoon tea with your Mum, Mother-In-Law, MIL sister, aunts, grandmother etc. is a nice idea.

If she asks again, just say something like ‘I know my girlfriends are looking forward to my bachelorette party, I am too, but it will be so nice having (brunch/lunch/afternoon tea) with you, and the rest of the ladies in my family!’

That way you make clear that she isn’t invited, but you haven’t forgotten her.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, can you guys plan a bachelorette kinda party for your Mom’s and the Aunt for one day, include a few close friends, then do your real girls night another time?  I would never feel right telling my Future Mother-In-Law she wasn’t invited, so the only other remedy was to still do something with her, a pseudo-bachelorette party. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I think that’s good thinking.  I agree with jennifer espos.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I think its great that she wants to go, but I dont know if that would be the best time for her to be there. Let your Maid/Matron of Honor know to “lose” her invitation or keep her party and your party separate.

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