posted 11 years ago in Family
  • poll: What to do???How to handle??

    Have it where she wants even though we vowed never to step foot in this place again

    Stand your ground, she's been enough drama already!

  • Post # 3
    391 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Maybe you should thank her for being thoughtful enough to arrange the rehearsal dinner but explain that you and your Fiance have different tastes and you’d rather have it somewhere else.

    I also think that you should sit down with your Fiance and have a serious talk about how you’d handle the event where she doesn’t even give you the wedding money in Feb. Could you afford it on your own?

    Post # 5
    1261 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I suggest giving them a deadline for when you need to have the money, or their guestlists will be cut since you will have to assume the money won’t be coming and will then be rearranging the affair. Let them know calmly (in person) that this is what will be happening. Sounds like you and your Fiance are on the same page here, but it’s crucial that you establish what the arrangement will be with him and stick to it.

    Post # 6
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Unfortunately I think that once you accepted her offer and did not put the condition beforehand (that you would not accept that place), it would be really bad now to give her the money back and look for something else. As in, really really bad.

    Also, even though she’s a difficult woman, she’s still your Fiance mother! I don’t think the issue is worth the risk of alienating her… Try to accept it and make sure all your guests know you had no say in the restaurant choice 😉

    Post # 8
    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Oooo that’s a tough one. On the one hand, someone who is willing to pay for your rehersal dinner is very helpful especially as she’s flaking out on so many other financial obligations. On the other hand, a cockroach? Seriously?

    I would express to her your concern about the venue “Oh Molly, it’s just that my Uncle Jim from the HEALTH DEPARTMENT is going to be so uncomfortable given their roach problem…we woudl LOVE to eat there if it were just the four of us….” and hope she changes her mind to avoid embarassment. Otherwise, I think you may need to suck it up and make sure you wash your hands thoroughly and maybe don’t eat anything beacuse food poisoning the day of your wedding is nto what you’re looking for!

    Post # 11
    72 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    wow the nerve some people have! at this point id say if she declined its probably for the best simply because you dont want to be stressed out the day of your wedding. dont let her ruin your day! good luck

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