MIL driving me crazy

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Water Melon :  unfortunately yes, this last post especially is a husband problem. He needs to set boundaries, but unfortunately it doesn’t sound like he wants to?

We’re also having issues with my husband’s mother – different issues than yours, but the result is the same. My husband has to set the boundaries / speak up. He has to some extent, but it’s hard to for him to communicate (I have 0 issues putting my parents / family in their place and doing the same with mommy dearest, but that is just asking for trouble) so I suggested we go to therapy together to help him articulate better. I’m thankful our issues aren’t to this level but he (and I) are hurting nonetheless.

I think that you should take the same approach. You may need to frame it differently because at the root of the issue, your husband doesn’t sound like he is on your team. And I’d suggest a therapist to be that objective third party to be the one to tell him, rather than you. Because it sounds like he just justifies it away and minimizes your (VERY LEGITIMATE) concerns. 

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