(Closed) MIL get ready with the bride?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do you not want her there?? I gave the option of my Future Mother-In-Law to spend the day with us, but I assumed that she would want to be with her son.  I was right.  I would say its her choice, if she rather be with all the girls that day and you dont mind…

Post # 4
1046 posts
Bumble bee

Mine came in and out, but she wasn’t there the whole time and didn’t get ready with us. She just liked to come in and cry and tell me how beautiful I was and take pictures =) The whole experience was just a little overwhelming for her I think. She liked being able to come and go as she pleased.

Post # 5
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My Future Mother-In-Law is getting her hair done with us but I imagine she will stick close with the girls most of the morning. Once at the church, I’m sure she will bounce back and forth between the groom’s room and mine.

If you wanted a special moment with your mom you could always ask everyone but her to leave while you put on your dress. That way it is just the two of you and it acts as a surprise for Future Mother-In-Law and bridesmaids when they see you.

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think mine will be with me. I really like her but I just want the morning of to be as calm and low-key as possible. The more people that are there, the more of an “event” it will be, ya know? I think the night before the wedding I’m going to go stay in a hotel with one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man and let my Fiance and his family have our house to get ready in. I’ll get ready at the hotel with my mom and BMs. 

Post # 7
14 posts
  • Wedding: August 2011

It all depends on the relationship you two have.  You can always ask her to join in as you get ready and maybe even ask her to stop by an hour before (instead of being there the entire time you are getting ready).  This way you have some bonding time with her before your ceremony, but spend most of the time with your own mother or bridal party.

Post # 8
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can only judge based on my FBIL’s wedding last year but my Future Mother-In-Law didn’t go anywhere near the brides room when she was getting ready. She didn’t even speak with her until right before their processional. I dont know if this is normal or not.

I plan to tell my Future Mother-In-Law that she is more than welcome to be there with us when we’re getting ready but like messybride mentioned, I am going to kick everyone out besides my mom when I am getting in my dress. I won’t really have an opportunity to spend one-on-one time with her during the day so having those few minutes will be special to us both. 

Post # 9
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Ask your mom if she’s ok with her being there, and if she is and you don’t mind, invite her. Even if she doesn’t want to come I’m sure she’d be happy with the invite.

I invited my mil to get her hair and makeup done, but she didn’t want to b/c she already has a place that she likes to get that done. She came while we were getting ready and just went back and forwarth from me to my hubby the whole time. For me, I loved having her there. We’re all about family and I wanted to share my whole day with my new family.

Post # 11
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t want anyone in the room with me but my Maid/Matron of Honor, mother and aunt. I don’t really like my Future Mother-In-Law and really don’t want to interact with her at all the entire time she’s in town. I’m even staying at the hotel with my Maid/Matron of Honor when she comes into town because my Future Mother-In-Law will be at my house. It may sound bad but seeing her would ruin my whole wedding experience. Ugg just thinking about it makes me want a drink and its only 9:30a right now! lol

Post # 12
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think that’s expected, but if you have a good relationship with her and you want her there, the go for it!

Post # 14
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

You dont need to do that but if you want her there then invite her. My Mother-In-Law stopped by once  I had my dress and everything on and we took a few pictures with my SILs as well. She was there for maybe 5 minutes and then I didnt see her again until right before our ceremony. I was happy to have a time that was special with just my mom there and I know my mom was happy too

Post # 15
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

my fmil has the option to come in and go as she pleases.. she does xcellent makeup so she might actually be helping with makeup, She is very easy going so I dont mind if she is there or not.

Post # 16
10850 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

My Mother-In-Law would have been glued to me like a cheap toupee if she had it her way. I really wanted it to be me, my mom, and my BMs and wasn’t super interested in more people being with us for the sake of being with us. SO I assigned my aunt (who also would have been there, so this actually got two people out of the way and made one of them feel really important to have a “special job”) the task of keeping Mother-In-Law occupied. I made it clear to Mother-In-Law that she was definitely more than welcome to come at lunch and then have her hair and make up done with us, but that she should really be with her son on his wedding day. It worked out really well actually. My aunt shuttled Mother-In-Law around between the hotel I was at and the hotel where Darling Husband was getting ready (and where she was staying). Mother-In-Law was thrilled to be with my aunt, I got some peace and quiet and had time with my mom, and everyone was happy because they got to see me getting ready at some stage of the game.

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