(Closed) MIL Had Issues TTC After BC, Should I Be Worried?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Some women have trouble getting pregnant coming off BC. Some don’t. Some women have miscarriages, some don’t. It is really up to your body and there’s no way to know what it will do until it does it. 

So, I’m sorry your MIl had problems, but that doesn’t mean you will. There’s lots you can do to maximize tour chances of getting pregnant, but there arent a lot of ways to PREVENT bad things from happening. 

Post # 4
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ll also add that our Mother-In-Law was on BC 20 or more years ago. BC is VERY VERY different now

Post # 5
3276 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It really depends. It is common in my family to have a MC. My mom, Future Mother-In-Law, and two cousins have all had miscarriages after BC. MC are fairly common, some people don’t even know they are pregnant when they have one. The only good thing that comes of them is that the next child is generally very healthy and develops well. 

Post # 6
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Glasgowbound:  +1
The pill now is so different than it was back then. You should talk to your gyn about your specific concerns

Post # 7
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Your body is likely very different than hers. My OB rec. being off of BC 3-6 months before TTC. 🙂

Post # 8
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Not sure how common, but I got KU right after coming off the pill. 

Post # 9
7430 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Every woman is different. My mom had 3 miscarriages before she had me, so I always thought I would have trouble like she did. I got pregnant the first time Darling Husband didn’t pull out, and am now 22 weeks. I can’t speak to the BC because the only BC I’ve ever used has been condoms.

Post # 10
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Totally agree with PP – every woman is different, and the pill is very different now.  Some people have difficulty getting pregnant (only 85% will in their first year), and miscarriages are very common (~30% of early pregnancies).  So with all likelihood, the troubles your Mother-In-Law had weren’t related to the pill, and it was just coincidence that that was her method of birth control before she started TTC.  I wouldn’t let yourself get worried, but one thing you can do is talk to your mother, sisters, etc. to see if they had trouble TTC or with MC, since they have the same genes as you and those things could be related.  Good luck!

Post # 11
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Every woman’s body is different. I was on the pill for 10+ years and got pregnant 3 months after stopping the pill. It took my mom 2+ years to get pregnant with me, so I assumed I would have issues getting pregnant as well. But you really just never know.

Post # 12
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Everyone is completely different and so you might have issues, or you might get pregnant on the first try. You just never know!

Post # 13
11744 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It differs from woman to woman. I was on BC for 10 years and the first time we pulled the goalie, (6 weeks after stopping BC) I got pregnant.  Other people take years after coming off. 

I would talk with your doctor about it. Just because your Mother-In-Law had issues, doesns’t mean you will. If you have no other health issues or history of infertility, I’m sure you’ll be just fine.

Hearing all the stories of ladies struggling to get pregnant made me nervous too, but clearly had no issue. It will really depend on how long it takes for your cycle to regulate again. But, they generally say that if your cycle was irregular before the pill, it will continue to be irregular after and vice versa. 

Post # 14
6240 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Like the PP have said, birth control isn’t the same as it was 20 years ago. Also, you have no idea if it was actually responsible for the trouble TTC- some people just have trouble, anyway, even without the BC. Don’t let it bother you, you’ll find out when the time comes.

Post # 15
9134 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@LittlePumpkin:  Since you’re not genetically related to her I personally wouldn’t worry about it.  Have you asked your mom if she had any specific issues getting pregnant?

It took my mom 5 years but she admitted that her and my dad really didn’t understand the whole TTC process back then.  The one time I had an accident with BC I got pregnant (and I had been on BC for 9+ years at that point) so I’m not too concerned about getting pregnant when we decide to TTC.

P.S. A lot of women lose their first pregnancy to MC, it’s just not talked about very often.  That is the main reason why a lot of women wait until 12 weeks to reveal their pregnancy; most MCs occur within the first trimester which ends at 12 weeks.

Post # 16
7646 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@LittlePumpkin:  I think the pill is very different now, AND when I went to my last OBGYN appt she said that being on the pill actually lessens your chance of MC. Whether or not that has been studied and proven to be true, I don’t know, but I know a lot of women easily get pregnant off of birth control. Some don’t. I think it depends on the person’s body.

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