Post # 1
so i am now 13 weeks 1 day pregnant and we havent told alot of our family other than parents and his sister and BIL because there hasnt really been a good time to tell. we could have said something at easter but his sister has had a hard time getting pregnant and thats when she told family. i wasnt far along enough to even tell people. (scared of miscarriage) once we told his mom she promised not to tell anyone because she said it is our news to tell. which i thought was respectful. well turns out she has been telling everyone. his moms side of the family went camping this weekend and now everyone on that side of the family knows. i was texting SO cousin and i told her, turns out his mom ran into her and already told her too ! so much for it being our news to tell. sorry its kinda a rant but what the h**l.
Post # 3
I absolutely hate it when people do that. Hate it. I’d call her out on it, but that’s just me. I want to at least make such people aware of what a big @#$%ing mouth they are and that it isn’t appreciated.
Post # 4
That sucks. At least now you know to tell her any sensitive information last.
Post # 5
That really sucks. I’m sorry!! 🙁
Post # 6
That really sucks. I agree with PP that you should call her out on it and tell her you don’t appreciate her stealing your thunder. We had to remind one of our closest friends that this is our first pregnancy and you only get to tell people once in your life that you’re going to be a brand new parent and it hurts when people steal that joyous moment from you.
Post # 7
I would call her up and say something along the lines of “I am really hurt that you decided to share our news before we were ready. I know you are so excited to become a grandparent and we are happy you are so excited, but we wanted to be the one to share the good news and feel the excitement. Furthermore, it makes us question if we should tell you exciting news in the future before we want to make it public. We wanted you to have the honor of knowing first, and it hurts that you shared something so personal when we asked you not to.”
Post # 8
My Mother-In-Law is the same way. She can’t keep a secret to save her life. We don’t tell her anything that we don’t want the rest of the world knowing. I’m sure it will royally piss her off when we get pregnant and don’t tell her for weeks but when you’ve proven that you can’t keep your mouth shut, you lose the luxury of knowing things.
Post # 9
My mother is the same way…even after 2 miscarriages. We couldn’t tell anyone b/c she had already told the world. So incredibly frustrating.
Post # 10
My Mother-In-Law revealed that we were expecting a boy (21 weeks) on her facebook before we did. I had no choice but to go public at that point even if very few people look at her FB. I plan on writing an email when we get close to delivery that no pictures or other announcements can be made by her or any other family members until we properly announce it. I plan on turning off my FB wall as well. I’m sure she won’t be fond of this, but it’s not her news to announce and I want her to know that.
Post # 11
when it comes to this i wish i could say something to Mother-In-Law but SO and his mom are super close and i dont wanna be too rude about it. i talked to my mom about it and she said shes just excited. which i understand but her daughter is pregnant (SIL) and Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law think SIL is like god gifts to earth so they could just talk about her pregnancy ?
Post # 12
@mrshersch74: My Mother-In-Law did the saaaame thing. I was pissed, but ultimately, there’s nothing I could do about it after she blabbed. I know she shared our news out of excitement, but I totally understand your frustrations. It wasnt her news to share. And it shouldn’t have been shared until YOU were ready to share it. In our case, we decided that we will wait to share the news with my Mother-In-Law until we ARE ready for EVERYONE to know. Unfortunately, her need to blab has influenced when we will tell her about any future babies. Sorry you had to deal with this…