- 10 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Hi Bees! I have had a tumultuous relationship with Mother-In-Law and SIL…it really comes down to them losing control of planning OUR wedding and pouting about it to the point where we had to cancel our wedding 🙁 I love my fiance but he’s a 29 year old man and is afraid to stick up for me or himself with his mom because of his fear of her not talking to him anymore. To make a long story short, my fiance and I were supposed to get married last year and called the wedding off because of his family interfering with the plans. The wedding was cancelled but not the marriage. My fiance and I are still together doing fine with the exception that his family. Were all so close but since we cancelled they will not talk to me, they are rude and will walk past me without saying hello. It has def put a strain on our relationship because we both (my fiance and myself) don’t know why they hate me so much and they just can’t stop holding a grudge because we cancelled OUR wedding. Who has all this energy to stay mad, its been almost a year and clearly I’m not going anywhere. My fiance thinks they will never talk to me and sometimes says “you can’t make people like you” it has held us back from re-planning our wedding. He is also embarrassed by their behaviors but can’t stand up to them. He needs to tell them, “mom the way you treat her really hurts me and if you loved me you would stop” but he just can’t do it. Sometimes I feel like I should just leave but I do care for him very much. Anyways, a few nights ago his family’s suffered a tragedy and I raced over to his house at 2:30am to make sure everyone was ok and to support my fiance. Their garage burned down and I was so thankful no one was injured because it could have been worse. When I showed up his mom and sister didn’t acknowledge me and pretty much made me feel like crap for even stepping foot on their property. My fiance didn’t say anything and at that point with everything going on I didn’t even care they weren’t talking to me, I was just concerned with everyones safety. I have since offered food/my car/my place as a result of their tragedy and they refuse to answer my text or phone calls. Am I trying too hard? I feel like an idiot for continuing to even try with them, it makes me look stupid and desperate but really I just want everyone to get along and for my fiance and I to move forward with our life. Don’t know if I should stay with my fiance anymore because his family makes me so sad and nothing looks like it will change. Thanks for any advice, this has been hard. I almost want to go see a life coach about it.