(Closed) MIL has really hurt my feelings

posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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1871 posts
Buzzing bee

you’re not trying too hard. you’re being a good daugher/sister in law, and a good person in general. dont be discouraged and dont stop being kind, it will get you far in life. hopefully your in laws see the error of their ways soon enough. kill them with kindness 🙂 

Post # 18
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1726 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think you need to just up and leave your Fiance. You have been with him for a LONG time. I think the better thing to do in this case would be to take some time apart. Get your own place or move in with a friend, relative, parents, etc. 

THEN see how things go with him. This move of yours will DEFINITELY have some kind of impact on him. You can guage by his actions post-move as to what is the best thing to do.

Post # 19
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84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you should sit down with your Fi and explain just how much this affects you, and if he’s not willing to maybe sit down with you and the rest of the family to put this matter to rest then perhaps you should take care of yourself and move on.

Hope this works out for the best!

Post # 20
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3605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

whats “tragic” about a garage burning down?  

as far ar your Future Mother-In-Law goes, my mom was that Mother-In-Law from hell against my sisters husband and at some point my sister had to make a choice and she choose him – its my mothers loss because she has no contact with her grandsons or daughter because of her own warped sense of self entitlement

at some point your Fiance is going to have to man up and make a decision – you or his family, its sad but you cant go on being treated like crap because some woman doesnt get to rule your life.  goodluck, i wish there was an easy answer

Post # 22
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1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh wow… I’m so sorry that it ended up like that, doll.  I was really hoping that you two could work through this.  I am glad that you had this discussion now rather than after the vows though.  Once you’re married, you should be the most important woman in his life. Period.  You shouldn’t settle for anything less and I’m very happy to hear that you’re not going to.  Family is very important– my mom is my world, but I would never let her come between me and my (future) spouse.

I know it’s tough right now.. especially after over three years.  I’m so sorry… but like you said, better things are definitely ahead for you!  :o)

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