Post # 91
We didn’t abandon him. We offered to take him and Mother-In-Law said no and that we could have him when we had a yard. Its DH’s dog in the sense that it has a stringer bond with but Mother-In-Law bought him and was going to keep him forever until we asked/offered to take him.
Maybe I do need to grow in that area. I guess I’m just having a hard time understanding how a woman who always lets her feelings be known get that upset over the puppy after acting so excited about it. When we sit down to talk I will ask her why she didn’t express that she actually wanted us to take the dog and didn’t want us to get the puppy. I will hear her out and I will apologize if I hurt her but how do I handle something like this in the future. How can trust her and what she’s says in the future. Does this mean I should second guess her when she says she’s ok with something? Maybe we need to talk about not just the dogs but our communication as well. I can’t walk on egg shells with her forever.
Post # 92
Oh the hell with it, the mods can edit my post because it’s not unicorns and rainbows. OP, people like you and you your husband make me sick. Stop making your pathetic excuses and do the right thing.
Post # 93
I could’ve taken care of the other dog but Mother-In-Law would not give us the dog. How am supposed to take care of it? If you have an answer on how to take a dog away from perfectly good owner against their will that is legal please tell me. Mother-In-Law was a great owner before we got the puppy, she was a good but full of complaints owner after the puppy and just in the last two weeks has become a bad owner. Up until now there was no reason to take the dog other than the fact that we just wanted him. If you can’t take the time to even try to understand that before posting then you’re a jerk.
Post # 94
7 pages jeez I couldn’t even bring myself to read past page 4…. why are you still sitting on wedding bee arguing with strangers instead of talking to your DH and Mother-In-Law and working something out for those poor dogs? You seem much more interested in defending yourself than actually doing something about the problem.
Post # 95
And what is the right thing at this point? We are trying to get the dogs from her at this point and few people have actually helped in giving advice on how to do that.
Post # 96
Well if we could all go over there tonight to talk we would but we can’t tonight because Mother-In-Law is working tonight. And I’m not just defending myself, believe it or not I have gotten some good advice here from a few kind people and DH and I are taking that advice and coming up with a plan for tomorrow.
Post # 97
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Post # 98
How did this (from the OP):
- When DH and I moved to our condo we told Mother-In-Law that we would not be taking his dog because we cannot give him the home he needs. He is not leash trained and absolutely loves hanging out in the backyard and we don’t have a yard and he has to be on the leash when outside. She was fine with that as long as we promised to take him when we got a house with a yard
morph into you trying to take the dog and her not letting you? Did you forget you said that?
Post # 99
Good lord. There are just no words. There is so much good advice here and so many excuses of how we “only see what we want” and different sides of the same story so that it’s never, ever actually your fault. Whatev. I think you need to sleep on it, OP, and try to consider what an actual adult would do.