MIL hates me now

posted 1 year ago in Family
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I think it would be a good idea to take some deep breaths and a step back. “She hates me” is not a productive thing to be telling yourself. Take yourself out of the equation; it’s not about you, it’s about her and the fact that she seems to be a deeply unhappy person who can only derive small pleasures by putting other people down. You can’t do anything to change her. You can only change yourself, so concentrate on speaking up for yourself when the situation warrants and rolling your eyes when it doesn’t. You get to decide where that line is drawn.

Post # 3
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6303 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

anonni4 :  I would recommend the DWIL forum (Google it).

I would take a huge step back and disengage.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Don’t overthink it. It’s about you, your Darling Husband and your own life and the family you create. Don’t let her trip you up. I’ve had similar experiences and have learned to just let it go. I am still nice and cordial, but I have stopped trying to extend myself or put in too much effort. She is impossible to please, and that’s her problem- not mine. You got this, good luck! 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

You do not need to be best buddies with this woman. All you need to do is be polite. I agree with PP. Take a HUGE step back and decrease your interactions with her- the way you would do with anyone you felt was being unkind to you.

Post # 7
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331 posts
Helper bee

I honestly think this has more to do with her and her own issues then anything you are doing. I would just ignore her and she might not find it enjoyable when she sees it has no affect on you. 

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