Post # 1
So we have decided not to have children under the age of 12 at our wedding. We aren’t even having a ring bearer or flower girl. My FMIL keeps bringing it up. For example we went to breakfast with his side last Sunday and we were talking about a Tux and she goes oh how cute would so & so look in a little tux as a ring bearer *cough * cough then looked at me. We already gave our reasons of why we chose the decision we came up with to both sides. Why won’t she drop it already? We have 2.5 months till the wedding if we haven’t changed our minds yet don’t you think it’s not going to happen? It’s so annoying! Should I just ignore her or continue to keep restating why we chose no children? Or does anyone have any better ideas?
Post # 3
If you have told her enough times that you won’t and why not, then I would just ignore her at this point. What is the point of rehashing- she is probably just venting out loud about your choice. Unless she asks you a question directly, just don’t respond and look at her blank faced
Post # 4
@armychica06: Agree. She has been told, what decisions have been made are done.
Post # 5
I agree, I would just ignore it. I’ve similar problems with my FMIL where we’ve told her the same thing over and over and yet she still tries to change our minds about things. It will just stress you out to keep trying to persuade her, so just try to just ignore and keep on going…I know it’s hard though!
Post # 6
she sounds just like my MIL just ignore it its your day not hers and you can do what you want.. in the end things arent going to go her way she she just has to suck it up and deal with it.. why are they so interfering!
Post # 7
I’m sorry you have to deal with that! It’s hard to understand why family can’t accept the choices that you make! We, too, chose to not have children and it does seem controversial, seems like you’ll step on toes with at least one person. BUT remember, it is your day, your decisions, your choices, point blank. The day will run smoothly and maybe your FMIL will appreciate the no kids rule when the day comes. But either way, you are making decisions based on what you want, no one else. Hope this helped!
Post # 8
Just ignore her, passive aggro comments are all she has at this point. Just pretend like you didn’t even hear her, not worth getting upset over.