MIL help

posted 4 months ago in Family
Post # 2
8159 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

lol.  my mom is like this.  don’t tell her everything.

Post # 3
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

People treat us the way we teach them too.  You need to, in a very kind and tactful way, tell her when she brings up a subject you don’t want to discuss.  If she’s just commenting on things or sharing her opinion, then that’s her right. You need to understand that’s within her rights and not take it personally.   Your right is to say you don’t agree and have no interest in debating it with her.  

Post # 4
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

jw2b :  yes, this!!! It’s hard to all of a sudden change the way you treat someone after you’ve known them for so long and they’ve already figured out how they can act with you. Instead of changing things all at once do so gradually. Instead of clamming up and not telling her any info about the wedding, maybe next time she asks about something for your wedding be like “we have an idea of what we want to do for X and we want to keep it a surprise” 

My MIL can be like this too sometimes it wasn’t until I changed my thinking and realized it all comes from a good place. If she didn’t like you she wouldn’t give you the time of day.

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