(Closed) MIL help needed…

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4691 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

This sounds like typical (but still absurdly immature) jealousy on your MIL’s end. There’s no reason for her to be acting like a middle schooler about helping you and giving input into the wedding. Do you not get along? Does she have a problem with you marrying her son? Yikes!

I would definitely just not ask her for her opinion about anything from now on.

Post # 4
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I would stop asking for her input and I would take down the FB page!  Too much detail gives people license to go crazy with the planning!

As for how to handle the 10 months – expect her to do nothing.

Have Fiance inquire about rehearsal dinner plans (not you!) and if they are not going to do it – handle it yourself.

Post # 6
1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What does your Fiance say? Isn’t he willing to help you to deal with his mom?

Post # 7
363 posts
Helper bee

I agree with PP’s about having Fiance deal with his mom and having him ask her how involved she wants to be in everything and if she was planning on helping with the rehearsal dinner,etc.

Post # 8
54 posts
Worker bee

Ask yourself honestly how you would handle this if it was your mother instead of his. Have a grownup conversation even if she doesn’t act like a grownup. Her remark about the color of the dress could have reflected her vision of how a wedding should be and have nothing to do with insulting you. If she is generally tackless, that is even more reason to not take it personally. 


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