(Closed) MIL Invited Guests To Bridal Shower She is NOT Hosting!!

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you did not intend on actually inviting anyone that your Future Mother-In-Law wanted to invite – then you should not have asked her for a guest list in the first place. If you had an issue with the size of her guest list (for whatever reason, whether because you did not know them personally or because of budget reasons) you should have spoken with her about that THEN. Believe it or not, most people would be receptive to a conversation like that. How was she supposed to know what the budget was for the shower or who was paying for it? You asked who she wanted there – she told you.

You unilaterally decided to only invite 6 of those people. I’m sorry to say, I think that was wrong. You now have to go explain to her why you didn’t invite who you told her you would.

Also, in my area (not sure able others), it is customary for all of the women who will be invited to the wedding to also be invited to the shower. So I am not surprised, nor do I believe it is out of line, that your Future Mother-In-Law made such a request.

Post # 4
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1916 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Did you tell your Future Mother-In-Law that you were not inviting 94 of the guests that she asked you to include?  If you didn’t, that is incredibly passive aggressive move that will surely have a bad outcome.

If you told her that you couldn’t accommodate them, then she should understand or foot the bill for them to be included.  She could certainly throw her own bridal shower and invite her friends.

Post # 5
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5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

No she should not have invited them. It’s very normal for most brides to only invite the women they personally know or future relatives to the shower. Had you been clear with your Future Mother-In-Law about the other 94 guests?

Post # 7
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4887 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@baletrina:  Honestly I just think it’s best that you stay out of the middle of this event.  It’s being thrown in your honor by other people; let THEM figure it out.

Post # 8
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5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@baletrina:  after reading your reply, your Future Mother-In-Law was very much out of line to invite guests that she was told she could not, to an event that she is not paying for.  And yeah, that’s pretty awkward for your sisters to have to be a part of, especially if they don’t know your Future Mother-In-Law at all. Ugh, sucky situation!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If she wants to invite those women then she should be able to – at a seperate shower that SHE hosts for you!

Yikes!

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