(Closed) MIL is acting like a zilla. Should I go to Christmas dinner?

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll: should I go to Christmas dinner with MIL-zilla?
    go! it is his family and you should suck it up for xmas : (33 votes)
    70 %
    don't go. it isn't worth risking fighting about the wedding and ruining xmas. : (14 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    1401 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    gatsbyaffair:  She tried, but I didn’t comply. as PP said, she can’t really host a brunch without you! Haha. She is well within her right to host a family breakfast, though. You can just not attend. 

    Post # 18
    Member
    48 posts
    Newbee

    Wow, if my future Mother-In-Law told me she’d have to step in and plan my wedding, I’d laugh in her face! As if!! And if you said 50 and she gave you a list of 75, can’t you just say, I’ll invite top 50 only? Who cares who she verbally told? Thats her own fault for being presumptive, how embarrassing for her. 

     

    I think Darling Husband not supporting you/backing you up is the big issue here. There are not 3 parties involved in your wedding, it is you and him. You don’t want a 3 person marriage, where Mother-In-Law has an equal say as to how to manage your house/work/marriage/children. If you are feeling that it is not about you and DHs needs only, then stop the planning for now. She shouldn’t have a say. If you are unhappy, tell him. Drop the whole plan and start over, with only you and him planning the wedding you both truly want. Your needs and wants are important, certainly more than hers, when it’s your wedding!! 

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