(Closed) MIL is an intrusive nightmare

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

This is just crazy.  I’m bummed you have a crazy fMil.  I’d drop the dress thing,  you can’t control what other people wear and like the PP said,  she sounds like she’s only doing it to bother you,  so don’t let her.  What does it really matter what she wears?

Definitely hold firm to the special granddaughters dance.  If Fi continues to be unreasonable, id offer to let her pick a song to add to the playlist later that she can use for a dance with them. I’ve been warned my fMil is crazy by everyone in Fi’s family,  but so far,  it hasn’t come out.  I’m not looking forward to crazy fMil. 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

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bride102018 :  Actually, it seems like you need to remind your Fiance this isn’t her wedding. None of the helpful advice here is going to work if the two of you don’t get on the same page. Your Mother-In-Law is not the only problem in this situation.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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bride102018 :  I think you are focusing too much on your Mil at the moment. Like your said, your Fiance doesn’t agree with you. So I’d focus on how to make it work between you two.

Post # 38
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Bumble Beekeeper

First, she should wear whatever she wants, she’s the one who will look a fool if it’s not appropriate and I have a feeling you won’t be hanging any photos that include her in your home anyway.

Exactly how would FMIL dancing with her own grandchildren display unity?

You have a major Fiance problem and I don’t understand why you don’t think it warrants counseling. 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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beethree :  because she has been distracted by her mil. It’s easy to blame all misery onto one person.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee

special dances? I look for about 20 seconds, say ahhhh and continue talking and drinking. As do most people I hang with.

Having said that she is way over the line and your fiance needs to grow a pair.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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bride102018 :  just to play devil’s advocate, since he has given you  so much, why can’t you let his mom dance for like 2 minutes, and he agrees to it anyway.

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