(Closed) MIL issue

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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Victoriagrace06 :  Ignore her, and don’t tell her your house hunting plans / experiences.

When we picked up that my parents wanted us to live in certain areas, we stopped telling them about our house hunting. We only told them once we’d bought the house.

Post # 3
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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Victoriagrace06 :  seconded, don’t share any more about your house hunting. She seems controlling and don’t get yourself and your DH into a financial mess because you purchase a house you both know you cannot afford. She’s not going to be legally, morally, or financially responsible if you guys *knock on wood* lose your jobs, can’t afford it anymore, are struggling to pay, make ends meet, have marital problems due to all of the above, etc. She’s being selfish and what you and your DH are doing is right and smart, this will take a significant chunk of your pay for the next 20 years or more, don’t give in now because she’s overstepping her boundaries. 

Post # 4
343 posts
Helper bee

If she is scared of “losing her son” (aka Not seeing him as often as before), you can maybe work up a visiting schedule with her, offering her to visit you or spend the night with you once or twice a month (however you feel comfortable). You and your DH can offer transportation. Maybe this will help her feel reassured that even if you are far away, she is still part of her son’s life.

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