(Closed) MIL issue – Still not sure how to feel.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Weddings bring out the cray crays in some people especially MIL’s. Just let it roll off your back. She is more concerned by ho this rehearsal dinner will reflect on her as it is traditionally her domain but that is old school and is fast becoming a thing of the past.

Post # 4
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I totally get what you are saying and would feel the same way.  I would have Fiance be the only to contact them about the wedding from now one, its his family let him deal with it.  I would have him send an email saying this is what we have decided if you still feel comfortable helping with the cost that would be wonderful but if you do not we understand and look forward to seeing you this weekend.  Keep it light and simple.

Post # 6
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Are you willing to comprimise with her. As in having a brunch at the time of day you’d prefer but at a fancy location that she’d prefer?

Post # 7
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012



Ugh, the “RMS Mother-In-Law” has sailed into port, get out the cannons!

In my book, the person who pays is the person with the power…so I’d suggest paying for it yourself and doing it your way. If you can’t afford to do that and you don’t like her plan, then cancel the entire brunch and don’t have one.  She’s being selfish and unreasonable. No one wants to get up that early!

Post # 10
8 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

Wow, this sounds so familiar to what I am going through with my Future Mother-In-Law, except mine is more rude. My Fiance and I are currently in a battle with her about whether our food at our weddings is kosher or not-she wants all kosher (even though she isnt kosher) and we want it not kosher at all. She says rude things to me all the time, including calling me a liar behind my back and to my face. AND, i get all of these opinions and ridiculous thoughts from her, when she isnt even paying a CENT for our venue! WTF??

My thought is similar to others in that its just going to be a battle, and you have to go in prepared. I do think you should try to stay out of it and let your Fiance handle the situation, but knowing crazy MILs, she will drag you into it. Its important that you dont let her get to you and you stand your ground. It is your day, not hers. And if it means paying for it yourself, then so be it. You absolutely do NOT need the added stress of her comments on your wedding plans. 

Post # 11
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I agree to have Fiance deal with his parents for the next month- it will take a great weight off your shoulders!

If she can find a “fancier” brunch place, would you and Fiance be receptive to another location? I would NOT budge on doing breakfast, that’s ridiculous.

Post # 14
1722 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@RagDoll:  Holy crap I just saw your update about walking down the aisle!  She sounds nuts!

Post # 16
3303 posts
Sugar bee

Super nuts! Wow!

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