(Closed) MIL may not make it to the bridal shower

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Personally, it would only bother me having to explain to everyone why she’s not there. It sounds like a pretty sincere scheduling conflict and doesn’t seem like it will have any long term affect on your relationship.

It sounds like you feel pretty okay with it.

Post # 5
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907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not trying to be rude, but . . . what’s difficult about saying she’s speaking at a church event?

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

^^^ Yeah I don’t understand what the issue is…

Post # 7
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470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Just tell them why she couldn’t make it.  My Mother-In-Law didn’t come to mine because she had to work.  I said “MIL had to work” and that was that.

Post # 8
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758 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

if it makes you feel any better, my fmil told me she wasnt coming because she wanted to go for a motorcycle ride, then showed up with a large group, made a big fuss and then left. Did I mention that my own mother didn’t go either because well…she sucks and was mad at me for “taking my sisters side”. She just started speaking to me because my dad made her but she has yet to apologize for acting like a 2 year old. Oh family drama.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yep, just say that an opportunity came up for her to speak at a church event after everything was booked, and neither of you wanted the other give up a great opportunity.  Easy peasy.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SapphireSun: Ooh I like that, make sure people understand that you’re happy for her to have this chance to speak. Increase grace, decrease awkwardness. I like it.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@specialklove: My husband’s mother also didn’t come, but that’s because she wasn’t invited. But no one asked where she was, not even my relatives who were there that didn’t know the situation or why she wasn’t invited.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@specialklove: Sorry to hear. Since you provided more detail on why its so awkward now it makes more sense. My mom passed away as well and if my Future Mother-In-Law couldn’t make it I can defintely see why you would be more sensitive. I’m sure you end up having a lovely shower with many people there to support you.

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