(Closed) MIL + Money Issues = Bad.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would tell fmil your budget for each category while you’re talking about ideas. if she decides the budget isn’t enough, maybe she’ll offer to contribute, but i wouldn’t ask. and i don’t think your parents would be offended. i’m sure they would appreciate any help paying!

Post # 4
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kitzy totally agree. Id give her the outline of your budget for that area and let her know that unfortunately it cant be changed or adjusted.If she wants to help out this is the point shed probably step in and say so.If she doesnt offer, I wouldnt ask.


Post # 5
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You simply tell your Future Mother-In-Law that while her idea is lovely, its simply not in your budget.  Repeat as necessary. 

Post # 6
46653 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree that I would tell her exactly what your budget is . I would break it down for her also, so that  when you are out meeting with different vendors she will know where to draw the line. If she is strongly suggesting an idea that is over your budget, tell that you love the idea(if you do) but that you would need to come up with  a way to accomplish the same look within your budget. Does she have any ideas?

I differ from the above posts in that I would ask ,or rather I would have my fiance ask ,his mother if she was prepared to contribute to the wedding, and if so how much.

Is she prepared to host a rehearsal dinner, as is traditionally the role of the groom’s parents? Is there any other area she would like to assist?


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