(Closed) MIL not happy with budget

posted 5 years ago in August 2013
Post # 3
46680 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Can you and your Fiance meet with her in person and clarify what she is willing to contribute? Then you and your Fiance will know how much you need to save for the rest of the expenses.

Post # 4
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@chanara:  $4,000 is nothing! I would ask her what she would like to contribute. Whatever the difference is, you and Fiance will need to make up the rest. At least you already are doing everyting very affordable.

Post # 5
9691 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah…a $4000 wedding is very inexpensive! So don’t feel bad about that, I doubt there is anything else you can cut.  What can you two contribute? 

I’d offer whatever you are able to contribute.

Post # 6
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

While any contribution to a wedding is generous, I can’t believe she expected the whole thing to cost under $1,000! Maybe a JOP wedding with a very intimate gathering after, but wow… 

I’d meet with her, and offer to cover the rest, but do explain where you got your figures from. That’s always helpful. If she can’t give you more money, then you two will have to come up with it. 

Post # 7
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

$4,000 is unbelievably inexpensive for a wedding! Kudos to you! You may have to end up covering whatever she doesn’t want to but I would suggest showing her your research. Show her what other vendors you looked into cost and what the vendor you choose in comparison is charging. That certainly was an eye-opener for my dad. She may be basing what she thinks a wedding should cost off her own wedding. The wedding market has certainly increased exponentially over the years. I’m really amazed you can do it with food, flowers, photog, etc. for only $4,000. Our photo and flowers alone are costing that much!

If worse comes to worse, just show her these posts on here where everyone is amazed you could do it for that amount! 

We tried to save money where we could and I did a lot of DIY stuff but for 140 guests we are probably over $30,000 at this point. That’s not including the honeymoon or our rings!

Post # 8
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@chanara:  Are you and Fiance not helping with any of the costs? I agree with PP that you should speak with her about what she wants to contribute, then the two of you should start saving for the rest.

Post # 9
425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you did awesome with your budget!! And it would be hard to cut out anything at this point so I would try to talk to her and she what she is comfortable spending. And then maybe she will be able to give more once you explain it OR maybe you and Fiance can contribute or someone else in the family?

Post # 10
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would definitely meet with her a discuss the budget so you’re all on the same page! While $4000 is incredibly inexpensive for a wedding, maybe she is completely out of the loop and doesn’t know what they cost? Either way, a meeting will clear it all up and let you guys know what you may need to cover!

Post # 14
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@chanara:  Your Mother-In-Law wants to invite 150 people but expects to pay no more than $400?  That’s kooky!  Just sayin’

Edit –  $4000 – is what I meant!


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