(Closed) MIL opening our gifts RANT

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

How freaking rude. Your Fi needs to talk to her and make clear that she should set the packages aside and that she stop opening your things.

Post # 18
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3282 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

Not cool. You are not being childish! They are YOUR gifts, not hers! I’d totally mention that what she’s doing is illegal. Your DH needs to tell her to knock it off! And then she’s even RETURNING gifts she doesn’t think you need?!!?!? Wow. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do a change of address if you don’t live there so they will stop coming to their home. Or simply tell her “do not open any more of our mail just put them somewhere and we will pick them up and do it yourself as they are gifts for us to open together and address to us as well” Your related now so it’s on you if she is doing something you disaprove of to do something an she will be in your life for a long time so best to start letting her know her boundaries with you soon. 

 

Post # 20
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254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

OMG.  I can’t believe she is doing that.  It sounds like she’s the one that likes to open the  presents for her pleasure.  I hope have your husband talk to her ASAP.  In the mean time, I don’t know how far you live from her, I would go to her place everyday to pick up any packages that arrived that day.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

OMG…what a bia.  They are not hers to open.  Change the address, or tell your Fiance to talk to her.  Completely inappropriate and SHE is the one being a child.

Post # 22
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48 posts
Newbee

Why are the gifts going to his parents home? I’m with the other bees — change the address immediately if you’re able to. That is just ridiculous.

Post # 23
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Not cool. Why doesn’t your husband talk to her?

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Hooolly crap. That’s totally inappropriate and kind of crazy sounding. I, being the lovely person I am (hah.) would tell her “Opening mail without your name on it is a federal offense. I wonder how much jail time that carries?” If she doesn’t get the hint, I would flat out say “I don’t really care if you’re my mother in law. If you open another thing that belongs to us, I WILL report you.”

That’s me though; I’m used to playing the bitch card lol.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

That’s so rude!  I’m sorry this is happening to you.  Definitely have ur DH talk to her and change that address!!

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

That would absolutely NEVER fly with me. Those are your gifts, not hers. She has no right to touch them. If she’s not receptive to you telling her to lay off then your DH needs to get involved. That woman needs to learn her role. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What does your DH say?

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That is extremely rude and ridiculous and you have every right to be upset, I sure would be!!

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If she thinks that opening presents isn’t a big deal to be excited about, then why is she getting to open all of them? Clearly she enjoys it and gets excited when a new one comes. She’s crossing so many boudaries here I don’t even know where to start. Change the registry address and tell her to mind her own business. She can open her own presents at Christmas.

Post # 30
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737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Cariad:  WOAH. That is completely unacceptable! I would be furious. It is definitely time for your DH to have a talk with her. How on earth could she think this is OK? They are YOUR gifts!

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Jeez.  Does she open your gifts on your birthday and Christmas too?  Your Mother-In-Law is way out of line.

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