Post # 1
Which is irritating in and of itself but it’s even more irritating when it is incorrect and directed at you.
Scrolling through my newsfeed and came across this goodie.
It is apparently directed towards my husband and myself because we asked for everyone to please take off their shoes before entering our new home. We recently just purchased and moved into a home with brand new flooring. Several family members stopped in on move in day to check the place out and visit. Since we live in the country and many of our male family members (including my husband) wear their dirty workboots even on weekends, we asked that everyone take their shoes off in the sunroom before entering into the main part of the house. We also have chickens who poop all over the yard and did not want chicken poop tracked onto our new carpet by everyone’s shoes. My husband and I also take our shoes off before entering our home and our dog has a mat that she wipes her feet on.
My Father-In-Law absolutely refused to come into our home because of this. He sat outside and pouted on the stairs the entire time everyone else was looking at the house. He is notoriously stubborn and is very much a “my way or the highway” type man. I can also be stubborn and was not about to go outside and beg him to look at our house. I just don’t believe in catering to childish adults.
They are apparently still angry about it and have stated to family members that we are “shameful” because we make them take their shoes off but allow our dog to be inside. Our dog lives there, they do not. She doesn’t wear shoes or otherwise they would come off at the door as well lol. Mother-In-Law also stopped into our young niece’s place of work and started crying and wailing about this to her in front of all of her coworkers and customers. Our niece is just barely 18 and had no idea how to handle it. She was just so embarrassed which irritates me even more that Mother-In-Law even put her in that situation.
Post # 2
Wtf? Literally half the people I know have shoes off houses. How have they never experienced this?
What even is there to cry over? Just take your shoes off, you’re not asking her to cut her foot off at the ankle.
Post # 3
If someone came to me and was like “omg what a piece of crap she doesn’t give a damn about me” and said “she made us take our shoes OFFFFFFF before coming into her new houseeeeee 😭😭😭😭”
I would be like… thanks for the warning karen, CLEARLY I want nothing to do with you and your dramatics, but yeah… your dil is soooooo mean 🙄🙄🙄
Hopefully the people she’s spewing to know better as well. Just roll your eyes and keep on moving forward. You did the right thing with her pouty husband. I always say that it seems counterintuitive to fight dysfunction with dysfunction by ignoring the elephant in the room, but by not giving them the rise that they are looking for, you can squash the theatrics that they bring to your doorstep. They will just save it for other people, like social media… or the poor 18 year old.
Post # 4
Omg that is unbelievably childish behavior. Good for you for not backing down.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Post a poll on Facebook asking “Is it offensive if people ask you to remove your shoes when you come to their house?”
Just kidding – don’t do that. But it’s nice to think about the petty possibilities, lol.
Post # 6
My narcissistic Future Mother-In-Law does this too, one time she reposted something which said “If you could rid the world of one thing what would it be?” And she wrote underneath “Selfish bastards” and then unfriended us. What was our crime? We said we couldn’t help her rearrange her attic on either of the next two weekends because we were attending my best friend’s destination hen party and the following weekend we were away in London for our anniversary.
Post # 7
Ignore, ignore, ignore. Do not react to any whining, gossip or social media posting. Keep steadfast with your boundaries and reduce/eliminate contact if necessary.
How very sad for them that their lives are so empty they must make drama over a simple, courteous request.
Post # 8
You don’t have to explain yourself Your house = your rules.
If they don’t like it, they don’t have to visit (they sound wretched anyhow).
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Your house, your rules. They are being incredibly childish.
Post # 10
Sounds like my mom… sharing petty bullshit on Facebook knowing good damn and well it would get a rise out of me. I also have a grandma and aunts and cousins who do this. And if your Mother-In-Law is like my mom, you know she is just waiting for you to call her out on what she shared.
Don’t do it. I’ve found thats the best way to play their game.
I’m sorry bee… this would irritate the fuck out of me. I swear people these days…. you literally just need to take your shoes off, this should be a common courtosey anyways. Shit, Dh and I have friends that volunteer to do it when they come in their house and depending on the day or if we just cleaned we have to tell them its fine to keep their shoes on.
Post # 11
I second putting a poll on FB.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
As much money as people spend to get their houses to look beautiful you would think this wouldn’t even be an issue. I’m glad you didn’t how down to your fil. Be the bigger person and let it roll off your back. You confront them about it she will make it seem like she wasn’t talking about you, when you know Damn well she was.
Post # 13
Father-In-Law is as childish as they come. Let him pout. And let her stew. They can’t respect a simple request like that then they don’t need t ocome by.
Post # 14
Maybe it’s a cultural thing? I can see my mama do this (not the fb part but upset at being asked to take shoes off part). I know one of my friends father in law was offended because my friend asked them to be careful on their brand new white fake fur type couch.
Post # 15
Seriously? That’s ridiculous! First comment from them should have been asking you whether they should take off their shoes or not. That’s common courtesy. Were they raised by wolves?
Also the passive aggressive post on FB is so trashy.