- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
My future Mother-In-Law has issues with her son. He was the king of the castle until he moved out at 28. He bough his own house and grew up. 1 year later we met and have been planning ourfuture. My fiancé and hs mother have been having seriousproblems. She says she loves him but as no love to give. She is upset because e comes back home and takes a bottle of water out of the fridge or helps himself to pretzels – things that I don’t Think should beproblems. She says that hefeels entitled to things but we are always helping out. I try to have diners for the family and bring them together but his mom won’t budge. She is sooo angry and sooo mean now she is telling us our wedding is a financial burden on her. I understand we are having a destination wedding but we have given them money for flights and I booked hotel rooms for 99 dollars. Plus she has family and friends in Florida. She is paying nothing for the wedding as my fisnce and i are paying for it all
It’s really affecting me because now she is spilling her negativity onto me. She is thinking anything I say or do is in a mean way and All I want is for us to be a family. I took her wedding dress shopping, I offer to cook all the time, I am helpful around the house but because of her I’ll feelings towards her son, my fiancé she won’t see anything but negativity. For example, they were fighting so i wrote an email to the family asking them to come for a holiday dinner at our apartment now we live in a bsmt 1 bedroom with no kitchen table In the email i say ” we may have to picnic on the floor but as long as family is together we will make it work ” she said she took offense to that no way will she be sotting on thr floor and if i easnt 1000% prepared then we shouldnt of had this dinner she also took what i said as me trying to munipulate her into offering it at her house none of this is accurate i was simply joking and being light hearted She said she won’change but I am afraid to say I do and bring children into this mess. My fiancé supports me but I also don’t want to be the wife that is constantly upset because his own mother bad mouths him to me or has aproblem with us. She won’t invite us to family dinners and we live around the corner. Ugh!!! Will this ever get better?? My family is so loving and supportive but his family is sooo toxic it makes me withdraw from my fiancé and that saddens me more. What do I do??? Thanks for listening to my rant.