(Closed) MIL Rant

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014


I’m sorry you have stressful in-laws.

I have a huge dose of my own (as you’ll see in my prev posts about them), and I know how much effort it takes both emotionally and physically to remain sane.

However, I would suggest talking to your Fiance before facing your Mother-In-Law yourself.

Your Fiance should hear you out and set up boundaries with his mother, not you.  If you face your Mother-In-Law and try to set up that boundary with her without Fiance agreeing with you, then all you’ll get is Mother-In-Law running to her son in tears and your Fiance being defensive for his mother against you.

You and your Fiance need to be on the same ground of understanding and agreement, and your Fiance should be the one to take the initiative of setting up the boundary with his mother, since he is her son – it’ll be an easier transition.


I emphasize the whole “same ground” deal, because in worse cases, Mother-In-Law will not bend even with her son’s words/pleas/etc – which is what happened to me and my Fiance.  In such cases, Fiance should stand on his ground with the boundaries you and he agreed upon – which is what my Fiance did – and this cannot be accomplished without the mutual understanding and agreement between you and your Fiance.


Good luck.

I know how hard this can be.

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