(Closed) MIL sleeps in our room :(

posted 4 years ago in Married Life
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

She went through your closet?  Oh hell no!!!!

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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stringcheese123 :  i love my inlaws dearly but NOPE. That is beyond creepy and rude of her knowing you have a 1 room apartment and that is crossing a boundary that never should have been crossed. She needs to go and next time your husband needs to explain to her that staying is not an option.

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Book her a hotel. Now.

Post # 51
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Helper bee

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stringcheese123 :  After your last update, I would be so incredibly pissed I wouldn’t be home for a good long time. That is so wrong, nevermind the whole sleeping right next to you thing (which I personally think is super gross). Never allow her back, ever. Seriously!

Post # 53
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Sugar bee

Oh, hell no.  If I was in your shoes, I’d rent a hotel room for myself to stay in until she left.

And she went through your closet and looked at the labels on your clothes? If my Mother-In-Law (or anyone!) did that to me, they’d never be allowed back to visit.  I’m willing to bet your Mother-In-Law went through all of your drawers and probabaly opened some of your mail, too.

 

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Bitch gotta go

 

Excuse the language. But at this point that is my sentiment. I’m annoyed and it’s not even my house/situation

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I hope you avoiding the house tonight speeds up her exit

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

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stringcheese123 :  

This woman has serious boundary issues. Your husband should be standing up to his mom. 

 

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Uh what??? Is this for real?

Post # 58
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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stringcheese123 :  Is there someone in your family, or a close friend, who you can stay with for the next 2 days? Someone needs to stay there and look after their cat, remember!

Yes, move out for the next 2 days and let your husband deal with her. This is just as much a husband problem as a Mother-In-Law problem.

Post # 59
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

FUCK THAT! That is terrible.

The going through your stuff would have been an instant deal-breaker and I would have told my husband to let her know that she needed to find a hotel IMMEDIATELY. And expecting you to give up your bed after she invited herself to stay?! Hell no! Absolutely not!

Good luck with that one. I’d never want to see her again either.

Post # 60
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Bumble bee

Her behavior is really out of line, but what surprises me the most is that it sounds like you haven’t spoken with her about it? She is family, so I think you need a direct conversation about what is and is not appropriate in your home.

I don’t think avoiding your home is the answer either. I would go home, and tell her “MIL, it’s on me that I didn’t say this earlier, but I’ve realized that our home is far too small for guests. [We’ll see this trip through/I’ve booked you a hotel – depends what you want]. It’s important that my home be my personal space. I am not comfortable with you going through my belongings without my knowledge, and I expect you to respect that wish.

She’s really out of line, but she won’t know there is a line if you don’t tell her.

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