Post # 76
Threatening divorce when or if you don’t mean it is manipulative, and emotional abuse. It’s a line that should never be crossed. OP should take him at his word and insist on counseling. If he was talking impulsively and in anger, OP should help him to know that it will be the very last time.
Post # 77
Update? Is she finally gone?
Post # 78
I agree with PP. Threatening divorce is not okay. I hope that once she has gone home you can have an honest conversation with your SO about healthy communication versus him threatening divorce.
Post # 80
Mother-In-Law is finally gone!
DH sent her off at the airport. He had a talk with Mother-In-Law about this whole situation. Mother-In-Law was furious. She also complained about how unfair it is that I have an easy life compaing to hers(??) and blamed my family for not helping her out financially(????)
Had a long talk with DH about Mother-In-Law, too. Learned a lot about Mother-In-Law which kind of explains her behavior.. DH grew up in a very bad household. Both parents were drug addicts, and had DH in foster for many years. He stopped talking to his family in college, but now his mom is reaching out to him again because he has a normal life and she wants money.
I understand it’s his mom but now I dont even want to see this woman again. We don’t have kids yet. Once we had kids I wouldn’t want her to be anywhere close to my kids either. This is turning pretty much into a rant but I can’t say these to DH.
Anyways the brightside is that she stopped talking to me! She liked to call me up randomly but now it’s stopped.
Post # 81
I know you can’t say exactly this to him, but given her history I wouldn’t want her near my children unsupervised and I would definitely cover money, resources, and children in regards to his mom. Well, both parents given their history. She sounds like the type to use his credit to get things for herself, so make sure you shut all of that down. No access to your mailbox, etc.
glad she’s gone!
Post # 82
Yep. she sounds trashy!! Make sure she didn’t steal any of your name brand stuff so she can sell it for drug money.
Post # 83
OMG! Holy Crap! I can’t even –I don’t even know what to write. I’m completely stunned! That was a train-wreck. I certainly hope that your husband is siding completely with you now, and was maybe under diress? I also agree with BalletParker :
Make sure that woman has no access to your finances, as she was going through your personal belongings.
Post # 84
This tread is shocking. How can someone be so rude? I HATE when people go through my belongings, I was upset with my mom for going through my junk drawer (ha). Kudos to you. This lady is horrible! I couldn’t do it.
Post # 85
What happened to change your hubby’s mind? That’s a big 180. From your last update (very thankfully)
Post # 86
I’m sorry, but how can you be married to someone and not know such significant things about his childhood?
Post # 87
I knew that he spent most of his childhood in foster family before. DH didn’t like talking about it because of bad memories. So I didn’t know the extend of it. :/
Post # 88
i don’t know either! DH said he thought through it and realized he should side with his wife. (So happy he finally came to this realization)
we got married less than a year ago. Wedding won’t happen until next year. So this is the first time for us to go through family drama
Post # 89
What about the clothes snooping she did, did he call her out on that too? Cause that’s just weird as shit.
Post # 90
Mother-In-Law is your husbands mother,she gave birth of your husband.spent herlife to took care of your husband since birth.now when he grown up,when he married to you,he chose you to live with you,not his mother.oneday you will be a mother/mother in law too,oneday you will have children too…imagine if your daughter in law does the same to what u did to your Mother-In-Law,what do u feel?
in my religion,Mother-In-Law also as our mother,we have to love and respect her,especially if MIL/FIL, or our mother/father already old,we need to take care of them,as what they did to us when we were baby/kids.
I know u have a small studio apartment,for what she did in your apartment,yes we,sometimes can’t tolerate,but u can say nicely to her. U can’t avoid your Mother-In-Law to meet her son,remember she’s the one who gave birth of your husband.
I know different country has different culture. Its only my thought.based on what my religion taught us.