(Closed) MIL stole Thanksgiving… and Christmas.. again

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Two seperate days as to not ruin the kids holiday!? – That is completly stretching for a way to get HER way.  I would just ignore her and do Christmas, sometimes silence is deafening.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

How does she think that the adult gifts will ruin the kids’ day?  I’m confused.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’ve never heard of this, and I would seriously put my foot down. “Sorry Mother-In-Law, but Christmas will be at my HOUSE this year instead of your APARTMENT. Hopefully you will be there!”

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Unless there are drugs, porn, sex toys, guns and prostitutes in those adult gifts, why would she want to have two separate times to open gifts? Sounds really strange.  I’m sorry you have to deal with her.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

This is very odd IMO, but I have the unique fortune of having a kick-butt Future Mother-In-Law (she is however a terrible cook, but has given way to me doing a lot of it now) so maybe I’m not understanding this 100%. What does having Christmas at your house have to do with the order of gifts being opened? Can everyone not open them together in one place, here being your home? I’ve never heard of two groups opening gifts at different times based on age…very weird.

It sounds like something else is going on in your MIL’s head, maybe she’s having a hard time handing the reigns over to you for family gatherings. Maybe you can ease her into it by asking her to bring her…”famous” ham or fixings to your house for Christmas so she still feels included?

I hope you have an awesome Christmas at YOUR house!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Sounds like it’s time for you two to put your foot down, pick a holiday, and say from now on that holiday will be at your house. Phone everyone up yourself and invite them to your place so that she can’t just change your plans on you.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I forgot about the nieces. Can you appeal to her, saying how much it would mean to you to do a “trial” run this year to see how it goes at your house, and she can help with the food and stuff?

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: LOL @ the Easter Baskets…for us it’s St. Patty’s day. Wink

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: THat does sound nice 🙂 Maybe taking a stand and not participating this year might be the way to go. You know her best

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I think that unless you put your foot down, this is always going to happen and your nieces will always be an issue.  I say just get it over with this year and see how it goes in the future.

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