(Closed) MIL Stress…What’s a girl to do?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Can you take her with you when you go to tastings for the caterer and the cake? When you go to pick out your dress, or try it on, things like that? That way she is involved and giving her opinions on things, but there is no real responsibility there (besides showing up and the right place and time!).

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think mskalinin has the right idea. Include her in wedding events, but not any real responsibility. (That’s what I’m doing with my Future Mother-In-Law, she’s the same as yours!) 😉

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Id ask her to come along with you places but you dont have to give her actual duties.  Im sure shed be happy just being involved, and being updated on what you guys are doing for the wedding.  At least you know that she has a problem following through with things so you know not to rely on her for something important.  If you need help with the seating chart on FI’s side of the family, Id ask way in advance!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Love the caterer tasting idea!  (I’m going to steal that one for my own difficult mother/FMIL!)

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah I was thinking the same thing with asking her to go places with you, the dress fitting is perfect, cause you already have the dress and she has no say in the purchase, cause its already bought!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Yes.  That’s the way to go. And really that is the fun stuff.  Tasting cake…. seeing the pretty dresses. 

Will she be really psyched to fashion flowers to the favors?   Naaa.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I think it’s really smart to take her with you on a dress fitting or even to visit the venue so she can feel more included.  That way, she’ll feel like a part of the process, but you won’t be disappointed if/when she doesn’t follow through with anything.

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