- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Darling Husband bought a car several years before we were married. A year or so after he got it, the engine in his parents’ car blew up. Since Darling Husband wanted a different car anyways, his dad offered to take over the payments on it so that Darling Husband could get another car. Darling Husband agreed. He continued to pay the payments on it, but his parents reimbursed him for it. A little over a year later, DH’s dad passed away and DH’s mom could not afford to reimburse him for the car payment anymore. He didn’t have a problem with that, so he continued making the payments on that car without being reimbursed, and continued to let his mom use it. The car remained in his name and both the car and his mom were on his insurance policy (which she didn’t pay anything towards). Darling Husband tried several times over the past couple of years (after the car was paid off) to sign the car over to his mom, but she refused, claiming she couldn’t afford the insurance. Well, this past Thursday, DH’s mom totalled the car (this was her third at-fault accident this year, although she wasn’t cited for the other two due to them happening on private property). Since the car and insurance were both in DH’s name, we got the check from the insurance company when the car was totaled out.
Since the accident, his mom’s done nothing but cause problems. She insists that the money money from the car is hers, even though the car wasn’t in her name and Darling Husband paid for nearly all of it. After the accident, the insurance company gave her a rental car to use until the car was repaired or totaled out. She’s supposed to return it today, but claims that she’s not going to return it because she still needs it. She’s also continually denied fault for the accident even though she turned left in front of someone who was going straight. Once Darling Husband made it clear to her that she wasn’t getting a single cent of the money from the insurance company, she pitched a massive fit. She’s yelled at him, hung up on him, blown up his phone with threatening phone calls and messages, and, most recently, threatened to sue us for the money. She claims that since she’s on a limited income (she gets government assistance) and in one week we make the amount that she gets in a month, she needs that money. At first she tried to talk Darling Husband into giving her the money to buy a car. However, once he told her no (due to the fact that the car was his and the fact that she’s supposed to be getting a settlement from a lawsuit against a store where she tripped and fell), she started claiming that she needed that money to get by and make ends meet until she got her settlement. Then today, after making threats yesterday and today that she would sue us, she had her lawyer contact Darling Husband. He tried to paint DH’s mom as a poor, pitiful old lady who needs a car to get back and forth to her doctor appointments (and yes, there is public transportation where she lives), and that Darling Husband has an obligation to take care of her and give her the money. He encouraged Darling Husband to contact his mom and try to work this out between them without him getting involved.
I’m so furious right now. I can’t believe that a mother would have the nerve to threaten her own child with a lawsuit. Darling Husband has done nothing but take care of her since his dad passed away. The first two years after his dad’s death he even paid her rent and most of her bills for her even though she’s treated him like crap and constantly talks down on him. However, once he and I got married, that came to a stop and she’s done nothing but cause problems since then. I’m at a loss as to what to do. Obviously, if she decided to pursue legal action, we’ll be getting a lawyer, but even if she doesn’t sue us, I have no desire to ever see her or speak to her again after what she’s done.
I guess I’m not so much wanting advice as I am wanting to vent. I feel bad talking about it with Darling Husband due to the fact that he’s extremely hurt by what she’s doing.