Post # 31
lilsistam: it’s one thing to have a little compassion. however she sounds like the kind of person who takes advantage (govt assistance, a lawsuit over “tripping” at a store, and now this insurance thing) and does not make a real effort to help herself. just guessing from your story.
I agree with PPs. don’t budge. also, when the insurance said you won’t have to pay for the extra days on the rental car? get that in writing. just because somebody on the phone verbally said you’re off the hook doesn’t always hold up later. I’ve been burned on that before.
Post # 32
sunshine809: totally agree!
She will never learn how to be responsible as long as someone is always around to bail her out. She can’t save money because it’s easy to spend when it isn’t hard earned, and she clearly has no regard for other people’s property (3 at fault accidents?!). Why would she? Someone who slips and falls and sues the store she fell in has an unbelievable sense of entitlement. Why feed that?
Post # 33
I would like to see judge judy rip her a new arsehole
she has no case
Post # 34
agree that you should get in writing from the car rental company that you do not have to pay if she keeps the car additional days.
Post # 35
lilsistam: Is she a drug addict?
Post # 36
lilsistam: stand strong. Don’t enable. Bees saying that you should have compassion can bail her out if they want. Money talks. BS walks.
I have a similar husband’s mother. What a piece of work.
Post # 37
It’s not respectful to let someone bulldoze you, it’s not showing them respect… it’s showing them that you’re a doormat and they are allowed to treat you like crap. Respect is a two way street and this mother is showing her son and his wife NONE.
Post # 38
Also, three wrecks in a year? How old is she? Maybe your husband should gently suggest she go for an eye exam and physical. I’m not trying to sound snotty, but as we age, we all begin to see less clearly and move less quickly.
Post # 39
anonladygrace: But it’s ok for a mother to sue her own son? One who has kept her in free transportation for awhile now?
Just because someone is an elder doesn’t mean that they are respectable. Being old doesn’t make people not an asshole, it just makes them an old asshole.
Post # 40
I don’t know why an attorney would even bother calling your Darling Husband unless he was fed a load of bull by your Mother-In-Law or the person was a friend of Mother-In-Law pretending to be an attorney. The personal injury case from the store he is probably getting paid a percent of what ever she won, so she is likely not paying the attorney’s hourly rate.
Post # 41
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I don’t think she has a leg to stand on in court.
I’m sorry this is happening 🙁
Post # 42
I don’t understand PP’s who are insinuating you are being disrespectful/having no compassion. She is a grown woman who (sounds like) has mooched off her son for years and is no arching her back up that the free ride is coming to an end.
Don’t give her a dime and have limited contact. She sounds like an emotional succubus.
Post # 43
Sorry but I’m on the opposite side of this. No one makes several attempts to legally transfer ownership of a vehicle over to someone else if they’re just letting them borrow it. That makes no sense. I think he isn’t passing the $ to her bc he thinks she’s bad with money and will just waste it, not bc he considered the car his still and intended to take it back someday.
Unfortunately for her she was an idiot for not legally assuming ownership of the car before she wrecked it.
Post # 44
I am in the camp of being compassionate to others, however there is a time when being compassionate to someone and they take advantage of that person. That is what the mother is doing. I woud not give in on this. She is being a mooch and she is an adult she can figure out on her own how to get around/make money.
Post # 45
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
BrynneF: the problem with that logic is that she didn’t want to own the car because she didn’t want to pay for the insurance. She chose to borrow it because she was being cheap, and then once she wrecked the car she wanted to make money off of her accident by collecting the insurance she refused to pay for in the first place.