Post # 31
It would be one thing if he wanted her to live with him because she was dependent on him, either financially, or physically, but because she’s turning her nose up at an apartment? That’s not a good enough reason, IMO. You have to protect your child from her. This would be a dealbreaker for me, personally. How do you deal with this? Just tell him that you can’t move forward with the marriage and the house if he’s going to continue to live with her.
Post # 32
I find it really concerning that your Fiance allows her to treat you, and more importantly your daughter, like this. That does not bode well for your future together.
Post # 34
Nope nope nope.
Unless a family member is in hospice or recovery from being injured, no way in hell either of our parents would live with us. And we LIKE our parents.
Post # 35
This would be a deal breaker for me for so many reasons, the most important of which would be my child.
What happens when you have children and she puts one child on an altar and treats the other with disdain? Iy would crush your children’s relationship.
Post # 36
Yes i agree with you all. I have been seriously stressing over this. He is aware of how i feel about his mom since she talked about my child. At this point i am so not willing to budge on this that i will walk away from this myself. Thats not an issue for me. They are not extremely old that she needs our care. She just wants to experience what its like to be in a house. I will tell him she could come over on some saturdays if were home so she knows what is like..but i dont want her near me.
Post # 37
The only bright side to any of this (and it’s a stretch to find one) is that it sounds like the Mother-In-Law does not speak English, so at least she can’t say mean things directly to your face.0
Post # 38
Lol and thats what bothers me. Because she could say something about my kid or any of my side and i amsitting there clueless. Its just frustrating to me. Its to the point that if she were to say one thing i would just go off on her. And this i want to avoid because i respect elders. But i have a limit.
Post # 39
Stand your ground girl or you will spend your entire life miserable!!
Post # 40
She wants to know what it’s like living in a house? Ummm pretty similar to an apartment? Both have roofs and indoor plumbing. That is a weird reason to want to live with you guys.
Post # 41
She told my hubby she wants to be able to garden. I cant do this girls lol
Post # 42
No no no no no no no no no. A thousand times no.
Post # 43
No, you just have to say no. She can garden in pots on a patio
Post # 44
She sounds like a nightmare, so I would tell him straight up, “You can live with your mommy and aunt like an overgrow child or you can live with your future wife and stepchild. Your choice.”
Post # 45
You aren’t married yet. If your Fiance is trying to persuade you to do this now, can you imagine the pressure you might get when they can no longer afford to live in the apartment, or when, one of them is no longer independent?