(Closed) MIL wants to live with us.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
1888 posts
Buzzing bee

It would be one thing if he wanted her to live with him because she was dependent on him, either financially, or physically, but because she’s turning her nose up at an apartment? That’s not a good enough reason, IMO. You have to protect your child from her. This would be a dealbreaker for me, personally. How do you deal with this? Just tell him that you can’t move forward with the marriage and the house if he’s going to continue to live with her.

Post # 32
3167 posts
Sugar bee

I find it really concerning that your Fiance allows her to treat you, and more importantly your daughter, like this. That does not bode well for your future together.

Post # 34
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Nope nope nope. 

Unless a family member is in hospice or recovery from being injured, no way in hell either of our parents would live with us. And we LIKE our parents. 

Post # 35
3376 posts
Sugar bee

This would be a deal breaker for me for so many reasons, the most important of which would be my child.

What happens when you have children and she puts one child on an altar and treats the other with disdain? Iy would crush your children’s relationship.

Post # 37
3395 posts
Sugar bee

The only bright side to any of this (and it’s a stretch to find one) is that it sounds like the Mother-In-Law does not speak English, so at least she can’t say mean things directly to your face.0

Post # 39
1703 posts
Bumble bee


Stand your ground girl or you will spend your entire life miserable!! 


Post # 40
1309 posts
Bumble bee

She wants to know what it’s like living in a house? Ummm pretty similar to an apartment? Both have roofs and indoor plumbing. That is a weird reason to want to live with you guys.

Post # 42
6758 posts
Busy Beekeeper

No no no no no no no no no. A thousand times no. 

Post # 43
4258 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

No, you just have to say no.  She can garden in pots on a patio  

Post # 44
1272 posts
Bumble bee

She sounds like a nightmare, so I would tell him straight up, “You can live with your mommy and aunt like an overgrow child or you can live with your future wife and stepchild. Your choice.”

Post # 45
12208 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

You aren’t married yet. If your Fiance is trying to persuade you to do this now, can you imagine the pressure you might get when they can no longer afford to live in the apartment, or when, one of them is no longer independent?

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