(Closed) MIL went psycho at wedding – can you relate?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry that this happened! That sounds truly awful. Normally I’m all for dealing with issues up front, but this sounds like the type of thing that can’t really be solved by confronting her about it.

I kind of think your husband should step in a bit- it is his mother, after all, and try to calm her down if that’s possible. Does he understand what her beef is with you?

Best of luck!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Awwww, I’m so sorry 🙁 What a frustrating situationt to find yourself in! No real words of advice, but I did want to at least tell you how much I feel for you. I hope and pray that there can be healing between the two of you, and between your families, and that someday you will be able to look back and remember only the good things about your special day.

(((hugs)))

Miss Rain

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Oh my gosh, that sounds awful. =(

I am especially sorry that she caused YOUR guests to leave YOUR wedding because SHE was a b!tch. 

Post # 6
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Worker bee

  I’m so sorry you had to start your married life this way. I hope that things get better between you two and I certainly agree that some time apart may be best. As long as your husband is sure to choose your side in things you will be ok. I wish I knew a way to fix things. Try your best and if you can, let it go. In laws can be a challenge and she sounds more like a monster in law but hopefully things will get better. Don’t let her bad attitude mar your marriage if you can.

 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

So sorry sweetie.  Just let it fly.  And definitely leave her alone.  Is your H being supportive and how is he going to deal with HIS mother?

I am so sorry this happened.  Again, I am sure you were a gorgeous bride and that the happiness outweighted the mischief making Mother-In-Law.  Maybe she is somewhat of an attention hog..almost sounds as if.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I am very sorry to hear that this happened and that you will have to continue to deal with this. You sound like a very understanding person. Maybe your new husband can have a heart to heart chat with his old mommy dearest and explain how it made you feel. Maybe she has no idea how rude she comes off to others and telling her will at least make her feel embarrised by her childish behavior.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I’m so sorry you had to deal with this.  I can’t even imagine how I would handle this if I were in your position.  Like the other ladies, I wonder what your husband has to say in all of this.  Maybe he would be able to talk to his mother about her antics at the wedding and figure out how she can be a little more appropriate in your future interactions.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Wow. What a difficult situation. I have no advice, just sending lots of hugs and well wishes your way!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry for you! I can’t relate but I’m sure my mom can. Apparently, among other things, her Mother-In-Law threw a huge tantrum at my 1st bday party. It involved food being thrown against the wall. She calmed down over the years, but I think what helped was my grandma getting older and the two of them keeping their distance. Hopefully, by your husband having minimal contact with her, she’ll see the mistake in her ways. It looks like a long road ahead for mending your relationship. *hug*

Post # 12
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Newbee

Sending you big hugs.  Sounds like you are already putting in healthy limits to make sure you take care of yourself for the future.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Your husband definitely needs to step up here- I personally would say something, but if you’ve tried and she isn’t reasonable, he really needs to give you a hand. I’m so sorry she wrecked things like that- what she did is pretty darn tasteless, and she sounds horrendously over-dramatic. I can say is that my SO’s Mom had the same issue with her Mother-In-Law, and my best friend’s Mom had that issue with his Mother-In-Law too- bf’s family left the country to get away from her, and SO’s Mom just flat out avoided her Mother-In-Law.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I mean, what the hell does one do about this? I agree. Your husband needs to really give it to her. Does anyone ever step up to her? She scolded the child, leaving her crying … and yet the mom just left in tears holding her tongue? I would have most likely set her straight right there, if I were the childs mom.

It’s your husbands job to do this. Do you explain that he needs to have a talk with her … or scream or yell or however he handles this woman?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Wow…this is terrible! I’m so sorry for you!!!

It wasn’t my Mother-In-Law, it was actually my mother, but she wasn’t as bad as your Mother-In-Law. To start things off, my photographer was explaining to me what pictures he was going to be taking. He said, "When your bridesmaids help you get dressed…" and my mom FLIPPED. I wore her dress, so she completely freaked out and started screaming at my photographer about how SHE was dressing me and NO ONE else was. Then, in the limo, as we arrived at church, she asked me where the handkerchiefs were that we were supposed to bring. Right mom…they’re in the pockets of my wedding dress…I don’t know where they are…YOU were supposed to bring them. So she completely flipped out on me in front of my bridesmaids in the limo. Then, at the reception area, she flipped out again b/c dinner wasn’t what she thought it was going to be (it was exactly what I understood it to be, but apparently not her). In between picture taking, my wedding party huddled in the garage talking about what a complete b*tch she was being! I couldn’t relax until we put her in the car to go home. It was by far the most stressful day of my life!

I’m sorry that your family had to leave the wedding…that’s ridiculous! I agree with your Husband in that you should keep your distance before you say something that you don’t mean. Her actions were definitely not acceptable, but you also don’t want to start WWIII with her either.

I hope for the best for you, and just keep looking at the big picture – you get to spend the rest of your life with the man you love!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

i’m sorry this had to happen to you!  she sounds like she is nuts!  who wants to remember their wedding day with a nutjob being all crazies and yelling at your guests?  she can not get away with!  your hubs has to let her know that her behavior was NOT ok!

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