Post # 1
So, Fiance and I decided to go with orange, white, and blue with silver accents for wedding colors. We both attended the University of Illinois at Urbana Champaign, and Illini colors are orange and blue. We also both love sports, AND I happen to be a Chicago Bears fan, so it all works.
Since orange can be a bit, um…powerful, I was planning on keeping the orange to a minimum. Nobody is going to be dressed in orange, but there might be some orange incorporated into flowers, the programs, and minor stuff to make it present, but not in your face.
However, our families have taken the orange and blue theme and ran with it. We don’t want a sports team themed wedding. I don’t want any university logos on my stuff, I don’t want to get an Illini button to put in place of the missing brooch on my wedding dress, and I definitely do not want my wedding officiant to be dressed as Chief Illiniwek, the late University of Illinois mascot.
These are all suggestions people have come up with. I’m not kidding, and I don’t think they were either. I realize it’s all in good fun, but I also don’t want to cheese it up that much, and I also don’t want to be rude when I tell them “Hell no.”
It’s sort of funny, but I’m almost considering switching out orange altogether and subbing it with something else! What do you think?
Post # 3
yeah, I made the mistake of saying my colors were ivory, navy and silver and my aunt and Mother-In-Law have run with it. Silver was supposed to be an accent color but they just keep on bringing me more silver LOL. Luckily, I have a wedding planner and she is setting up the venue so I will say “oh she must have forgotten…” if they ask where the stuff is.
You have plenty of time to pull a color out. Maybe just say “well, orange is only an accent so I want it in very small increments” next time the bring over the warehouse club stack of orange chair covers HAHA!!
Post # 4
If you truly believe it could spiral out of control… change it. The stress isn’t worth it. What does your Fiance think?
Post # 5
@jjmomma: He’s pretty indifferent to it all. I think as long as I don’t use pink (too girly) or yellow (rival team colors), I can do whatever I want. He’s more concerned with the whole getting married part.
@shedayz: If only I had a coordinator… Alas, I am my own coordinator.
I don’t have a problem putting my foot down, but I just need to do it nicely!
Post # 6
I just got married and had the same kind of problem when we started. I found it hard to keep the over-indulgent family from going overboard, but what I tried to do was to point them in the right direction. So if you like the blue and orange, keep the orange, but start giving your family tasks directed more to the blue so that way the blue projects will overshadow the orange when it does pop up. Another good way to angle the attention to the blue would be to start dropping comments to your side of the family like: well I really love the blue but the Fiance suggested orange which I wasn’t sure about it…so let’s keep that to a minimum. Haha. If it was anything like me, most of the craziness came from my side of the family so they really just wanted to give me what I wanted. In the end, if you tell them heavy on the blue, light on the orange, and no sports references…they may try to actually give you what you want.
Oh yah, and if anything truly crazy does make it’s way to the purchased-but-not-returnable category, try getting it involved in something before the day of the wedding so you make the person feel like they made a contribution without it actually showing up on the wedding day. For example, if a huge mascot gets bought, go take some pics with it with Fiance and bring the pics to the wedding to display in a cute way rather than the whole costume….Good luck!