(Closed) Military bees :)

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 47
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@zombiemonster- BEST OF LUCK TO YOU! I was prior dual Military (no longer in) and its tough. I have the highest repsect and regards to dual military couples. Congrats on your upcoming comission as well!

Post # 48
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@KT_Williams:  Thank you so much! I’m very excited for the new chapter in my life, and to have someone like my fiance to share it with ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m not sure if I want to make it a career or not but we’ll see! I’m thinking by the time I have kids I’d want to get the hell out though lol

Post # 50
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AubByAub:  Hey! I’m so excited to find fellow bees that are or were in my situation ๐Ÿ™‚ How do you like it?

Post # 52
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@zombiemonster. I loved it. Yes dual military is tough, but if I could have stayed in I soooooo would have (ahhhh I miss it TONS)  . I was injured and had to seperate. Now I still work in the field I did before just as a civilian. Not the same, but its a good “second” for me seeing as I was no longer fit for duty.

Like AubByAub said, it is really nice REALLY being able to relate and understand.

Post # 53
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724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My fiance is in the National Guard. We met last June (he had been back from Iraq for a year when I met him) and about two weeks after we met, he had annual training. A couple of nights before he left, we were out at a bar and on our way back to my house I kept insisting that I wanted to talk to him when he got back and of course the only way for that to happen was for us to be together (I’m very insistent when I’ve been drinking). When he got back from AT, he had the news that he may deploy to Afghanistan but that he still wanted to be together while he was gone. Luckily, that didn’t happen and on Christmas, he proposed and we’re getting married in May of this year in a VERY intimate ceremony (6 guests). He’s on reserve status right now and just goes to drill every month and he’s in school full time for business but lately he’s been saying that when his contract is up in 2013, he may sign another one. 

To be honest, since he’s on reserve status, I don’t even really feel like I’ll be a military wife, beyond having the health insurance. 

Post # 54
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574 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@zippylef:  I hate that stereotype too!  DH is in a rating (job) that is extremely male-dominant, and the (all male, usually single) instructors are CONSTANTLY berating all the “cheating Navy wives.”  Umm…. 

How about those of us who would NEVER do such a thing and how about the guys who make port and go crazy then come home and infect their faithful wives?  I guess we don’t need to talk about that side of the coin, for some reason?  It really, really angers me how single sided the conversation gets amongst them.

Post # 55
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AubByAub: &  KT_Williams I completely agree. My fiance left a couple months after we just started dating, just 3 months in. The distance kind of made me independent but dependent on the phone way too heavily. I wanted him to be on the phone so much! But then when I went away for training, and started my program I understood how tired he gets after a work day. Definitely changed my perspective on what he does and how time consuming everything is

Post # 57
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724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@zombiemonster:  Your comment about being phone dependent made me laugh. My fiance was at annual training last year and I was visiting a relative. I have no service where they live, except by one window so that’s where my phone was. I heard my phone go off from across the house and ran/dived/tripped over a dog on the way to the phone to talk to him for a few min. Of course, not even two minutes later he was saying he had to go to bed because he was so tired. 

 

Post # 58
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh you have no idea how bad I got! When we first started dating, he went away for some serious training, no phone or down time and I made him call me even for like 5 minutes at 2 in the morning which I made him turn it in to an hour. I don’t know how or why he dealt with me because I was a bat crazy lol

Post # 59
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724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@zombiemonster:  Lol, I told him that story after I posted it and he said in the barracks he would make sure to tilt his phone on the shelf so that he would see it if I texted him and that hopefully the light would wake him up. (He didn’t want to wake up anyone so he left it on silent)

I can only imagine how training will be this summer with us being newlyweds. I have a feeling I’ll be pacing the floor muttering to myself or something crazy everyday until he texts or calls. 

Post # 60
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2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Hey everyone, I am new at all these threads and posting stuff, but I think this is just the site I have been looking for!! My Fiance is an officer in the USAF we have been together for 3 years and have lived together 2 out of the 3. He is def a career man seeing he has already been in for 14 years. We are currently stationed in Las Vegas, but he just received orders that we will be going to Pennsylvania in August, so I have a very short time to plan a wedding and I haven’t even started!!! YIKES! So any help or advise I can get will be a HUGE help. I can’t wait to get to know everyone, I don’t have many military friends so it’s nice to talk to people that understand!!

– It takes more than a man to wear a uniform

and more than a woman to love a man in one.

– Anonymous

Post # 61
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64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@paigers91:  I definitely understand what you mean by not really feeling like you’re a military wife. My fiance is also in the National Guard, so it doesn’t feel like he’s in the military as much as it feels like he has to go on business trips once a month. Sometimes I feel like that makes it even harder when our boys get deployed. It’s really hard living day after day after day as someone who doesn’t feel like they are living the military lifestyle and then all of a sudden our man is gone to a war zone. ๐Ÿ™

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