(Closed) military bride needs help

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If she is in the military she cn do a one time “Home of Record Move” and the military will pack up and move it all at their cost.

If she has an APO address in Hawaii then you can go to a military base post office and mail it to her APO for free/ cheap. (I’ve always mailed APO to APO for free…might cost more for packages? dunno?)

Flat Rate boxes from USPS can work.

Bring a huge duffel and put all the gifts in it, with her active duty CAC airlines usually allow extra large or extra bags free.

She can also regeister to store that will ship the gifts to her if they purchase them from the store or online instead of them bringing the actual gift to the wedding.

We live in California and my brother just married an Aussie, having the weddng in CA and moving there immediatly after. On the timvites they said something like “Due to our new lives overseas monetary gifts are prefered” (or something like that…I don’t remember. It didn’t stop people though, they still got rice makers and even a giant rug….haha


Post # 4
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Hi!  I lived in Alabama and all of my wedding events were there, but I was moving to Hawaii immediately after the wedding.  I can tell you what we did.

I had my bridal shower about two months before my wedding.  That way, I would have time to ship presents without having to pay so much closer to the wedding date.  

Second, my mom and sisters spread the news I was moving to Hawaii and preferred gift cards.  For the most part, that worked, but there was a few old ladies from the church who felt more comfortable buying me actual presents.

Third, flat rate boxes suck.  Most of the presents I got were too big for the large.  Therefore, I got a bigger box and shipped it third class mail.  (I didn’t care when it actually arrived in Hawaii since I had my bridal shower so early).  Just make sure it is shipped with delivery confirmation and insurance since third class is the last priority.  

Fourth, we set up our registry so people could directly ship it to our Hawaii address (they couldn’t actually see the address for safety’s sake though!).  That was the best thing we could have done.


Just spread the word the bride prefers gift cards or to purchase them directly off the registry and have them shipped to the bride’s address on there.  If all else fails, ship them third class mail to pay the least.  She probably won’t need most of the stuff she gets immediately.  


Best of luck!

Post # 5
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

I agree with previous posters, but I also know that Alaskan Air and Hawaiian Air are very closely related. when we travel between home and the lower 48 we can take five 50 lb bags a piece on alaskan air with active duty IDs. If their air carriers are the same way they might be able to do the same. In that case duffel bags and LOTS of bubble wrap. You can also ask to put a note with your registry that says you prefer your items shipped to your home address (hawaii) instead of the wedding address. We did that with Macys and most everything has been comming here.

Post # 7
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Where are they registered? If they did Bed Bath and Beyond, they have agreed to be extreamly helpful (although we will see if it actually works). One of my bridal showers is in Michigan but we live in Washington. They said we can either return the gifts and re-buy them on the other side or they would try and ship them for us.

Post # 8
2 posts

Same situation here!  Thanks for the tips.

Post # 9
2112 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

A family friend was marrying into the military. They ended up getting a lot of gift cards because thatiswhat they wanted. They knew it would be easier for them to just purchase the things they needed until they got there. This was a very young couple though, so they didn’t have that many personal things to begin with. I think a lot comes down to what they would prefer.

Post # 10
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My sister had a similar problem: She lives in Hong Kong, but we held a bridal shower for her at home in Nashville, TN. The lingerie theme ensured that all her gifts were tiny and easy to take home. Wink

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