(Closed) Military Donations as favors?

posted 11 years ago in Military
Post # 17
22 posts
  • Wedding: September 2008

I love the "Buddy Poppy" idea.

Has anyone done this?

Post # 18
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I just looked on the VFWs website and on their contact page they suggest contacting [email protected] for info on the poppies.  That might be a good place to start. 

Otherwise, I would suggest contacting your local VFW post and asking for their help.  I’m sure they would be willing to help- since the compensations for the poppies goes to needy and disabled veterans that assemble the poppies in VA hospitals around the country.

Post # 19
34 posts


 This is such a unique and creative idea!  As a naval officer (my Fiance is one as well!) I think it would be great to highlight the USO.

The USO (or United Services Organization) is a non partisan, non profit organization that supports military folks wherever they are.  The most visible aspect is their concerts/shows they put on for troops in the Middle East, but they also do SO MUCH MORE.  In every major airport, there’s a USO lounge for military personnel (and their families) to wait for their flights.  I (and many of my friends) have been helped by them-they’ll feed you, give you a phone card to call home, give you computer terminals to check your email, and also, if your flight gets cancelled, they have cots and blankets for you to sleep so you don’t have to pay for a hotel room.  It seems like a small thing, but it is HUGE when you’re coming back and there’s a smiling face ready to help you.

They also buy phone cards for troops overseas and underway, so this could be a good favor, as well as care packages.

Sorry for the long post, but I hope this helps.  There are A LOT of organizations that claim to help veterans/soldiers, and not all of them are legitimate.  The USO has been around forever and very visibly make life easier for military personnel and their families.

Post # 20
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

navybride- I couldn’t agree more! I live in Atlanta and I am always touched by the reception the USO gives to the soldiers as they are riding up the escalator to baggage claim. They are a really, really moving group of volunteers. 

Post # 21
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

I agree with the person who said they supported soldiers, but not the current war. That is how we feel as well. I am not sure how I feel about charity as favors. I would be totally ok with people just NOT giving me a favor though. Just skip it allllll together. Donate the money if you want, but I wouldn’t waste the $$ printing anything up to give out. For our vow renewal (destination vr in Seaside, FL) I’m doing welcome baskets, but no favors. 

Post # 22
19 posts
  • Wedding: June 2009

Vyeta7 –

In case you missed it, "snarky" comments are not appreciated.

Of course I did not take a poll, I didn’t feel the need. Especially taking into consideration that 60 of our 100 guests are either active duty or retired Marine Corps, Army and Navy… I felt there was definitely no need to take a poll on whether or not they supported the military.

I’m sorry you feel that you wouldn’t be "getting anything" and it is "lame" to support a cause which obviously is significant to the people who’s wedding you’re attending.

Post # 23
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Again, I wouldnt have anyone at my wedding who does not support ME, my core values,  period.  Some people might not think it not appropriate to wear white unless you are a virgin..should those brides wear red to accommodate those people?  Guests at your wedding should be worried about offending YOU!  Not the reverse.  Out of respect for your fiancee and his service…absolutely make any donation you want and be proud of it!  I am proud of him and you should be too!  

Post # 24
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Vyeta7 wasn’t being snarky, she was just providing a different view. There are so many different beliefs in this world that it’s naive to think that every guest in attendance at your wedding will agree with you on every point.

That being said, to the original poster, please check out the debate raised over charity favors by Miss Flamingo, here:

Do Me a Favor…Be Honest

Miss Lovebug also had a nice way of doing her charity favors, which looked like it was fun and gave the guests more of a hand in deciding where they wanted to give:


Post # 25
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I have to agree that VYeta7 was being snarky.  I dont think she was being nasty, but I would say that her sarcasm might be a tad misplaced here. The original post was certainly not being argumentitive or trying to impress her values on anyone else. Let’s not turn this into a political debate.

 I am also a "bleeding heart liberal"  and a military bride. IMO charity donations in lieu of a trinket that might get discarded is a good idea.  Its what we will be doing. I’m glad someone has already posted about AnySoldier.com, another one to look into is http://www.woundedwarriorproject.org/


Post # 26
1 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am go gald I found information on military favors, I think I am going to make up favor cards and place a poppy on them. My brother is a captain and was in Iraq for 17 months– I think I am going to donate to the wounded warrior or the local VA hospital here on Long Island. I could careless if my guests support or do not support the war, it is my wedding and they can leave if they do not support our soliders. The war maybe not all that good but the men need support. They come home really full of anxiety (my brother). I think this is one of the greatest ideas



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