(Closed) Military Groomsman

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Would you put the Army groomsmen in his Class A's or a Tux w/ the rest of the guys?
    Wear his Army Class A's (uniform) : (10 votes)
    48 %
    Wear a Tux : (11 votes)
    52 %
    Undecided : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1391 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Personally, I would ask him to wear them. My brother left for officer training right after the wedding (literally) but if he had been active at that point I would have wanted him to wear his uniform. IMO they deserve that kinda respect. It may not necessarily go with the colors you have but in the grand scheme of it, it sounds like he would feel really honored to wear his uniform. 

    Post # 4
    18 posts
    • Wedding: May 2011

    in my opinion i say let him wear his uniform. but my fiance is in the army so of course my opinion is biased. but i think if u have the guys wear the yellow ribbons then he could wear the tux and still be able to represent the military with the ribbon.  

    Post # 5
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    It would be rude of him to demand to wear his uniform, so I think he handled it with a lot of class.

    I think he should wear his uniform.  It speaks volumes: that you are proud of him, and that he is proud of himself. 

    Post # 6
    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It’s not exactly the same thing, but my Darling Husband is an police officer and wore his red serge in our wedding.  Two of the groomsmen were also members and opted to just wear tuxes to match the rest of the groomsmen.  I kind of get the idea of not wanting to take attention away from the wedding. 

    I think it’s totally up to you and him to figure out what you want to do, and both options are absolutely lovely.  He just may be more comfortable blending into the crowd for the day, like our groomsmen were. 

    I think the idea of using the ribbons is a very touching alternative.


    Post # 7
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Personally, since he’s indicated that he’s fine wearing a tux and matching the rest of the groomsmen – that is what I would do.  I don’t think that is being disrespectful to him and his service at all.  He even said himself that he doesn’t want the attention on him being the only one up there in uniform.

    I do think the yellow ribbons instead of flower bouts is a really nice touch and very classy.  If shows that you respect and support him and his service (as well as that of others) while still letting him ensure the attention is on you and your Fiance.

    Post # 8
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    My boyfriend is in the Air Force and would prefer not to wear his uniform for any social events. It will bring a certain amount of attention to him and people can be very intrusive with the questions they ask him. Your friend might want a night off from being the military guy.  

    Post # 9
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I mean in the end its up to you, but if you dont care if he wears his uniform i would say let him. Though my brother isnt in my wedding party (FI has 5 brothers so no need to put mine in there) i’ve asked him to wear his dress blues (marine corps) i just think they look so nice and im very proud of him. He leaves for Afghanistan the week after the wedding so i think its fitting. By The Way my whole wedding date was planned around his deployment.

    Post # 10
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @totheislnds: I do think it is a very different scenario to have a military guest in their dress uniform and a groomsman in dress uniform.  One is highly visible, front and (semi-) center while the other one is amoungst a bunch of other guests.

    Post # 12
    87 posts
    Worker bee

    My hubby is retired military and did not wear his uniform for our wedding or any weddings. As a matter of fact none of his military friends did either. My daughter is getting married next year and her brother is in the wedding and will be wearing a tux like the rest of the groomsmen. If your friend is not concerned about it, you are worrying your pretty little head over nothing! 

    Simply take time to thank the vets in your life, particularly today, and then go about your business. There is no hard fast rule for uniforms and weddings.

    Best of luck to you.  Smile

    Post # 13
    4137 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i would ask him to wear the tux for the same reason pasquel said. yellow ribbon bouts is such a sweet idea! i would put the yellow ribbon under a flower.

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