Post # 16
I can’t speak to being with someone currently in but my best friend is active navy and my husband is an army Veteran with 2 tours of Iraq under his belt. My Darling Husband is the most amazing man I have ever known (aside from my own father) and I do credit his time in the military for some of that. He is honest, protective, smart, handy, and a total gentleman. What the PP said about post-combat mental health issues is true and my Darling Husband is very quiet about them, so I have to keep an eye out for when he may be going through a rough time. And, as PP said, the VA loan was super helpful when we decided to buy a home, and the GI Bill was super helpful in helping him get the degree he needed to get the post-military job he really wanted.
I have dated other service men both in and out of the military and I can’t say that I would generalize them all with one label. Military guys are still guys, all different. And I have heard some horror stories about dating some of them (just like civilian guys :)).
Post # 17
Hyperventilate: like really dominant things in the bedroom. Like somethin that make you go whoah. Not particularly bad, just didn’t know if this was the norm for most of them or if I have a unique situation.
Post # 18
janesays2121: I don’t think you can really generalize military guys to the extent it’s getting to. Yes, some of them have dominant personalities, especially if they’re in leadership positions, but attributing bedroom preferences to his military status is probably misguided. Military members aren’t carbon copies of each other
Post # 19
radem: I didn’t mean that they are carbon copies of each other, I was just debating to see if there was any correlation between the two. Not only military, but men in general that are in power.
Post # 20
I’m sorry but I have to LOL. “are they that much different than regular guys”… The ARE regular guys. Yes, their training is extensive, they are bad asses, they look hot in what they wear, but they are JUST like anyone else. Their feelings, thoughts, emotions, concerns, ect. There are differences, many months apart, extensive training, moving where they tell you, but the man is the man; period.
I am a USMC wife, my husband deploys, it sucks, but it’s not like I am married to some unicorn that farts rainbows. He is the best man I know, but not because he is in the military. You can find a man with the same standards, discipline, demeanor that isn’t enlisted.
Marry for love, not anything else.
Post # 21
And I have to respectfully disagree that military men are all “dominant”
My husband knows when to be the alpha male and when to not… and I have more say so in all things related to our relationship than any man I dated before my husband.
Post # 22
I lived overseas for years, in a place where the U.S. military has a heavy presence. From my experience, the majority were cheating on their wives. This was before I got married, they would be in night clubs trawling for us single girls, then next thing you know their wife is sending you an angry message on FB because you were tagged in some photos. I stayed far away from them.
Post # 23
This thread is insane. They’re human beings. They each have their own personalities. Get to know the individual person.
If he’s behaving in a way that makes you want to excuse it with sweeping generalizations then he probably isn’t for you.
Post # 24
I don’t know – sure having the authority at work can translate to also having it in the house/bedroom, but one could also argue that bossing people around can cause someone to really enjoy having their PARTNER do the bossing at home. Just depends.
My boyfriend is military and while he does often take the lead (and I often LIKE that), he also knows when to step back and let me guide the situation and sometimes downright likes when I take control.