(Closed) Military SO’s do you have a lot of friends who are also military SO’s

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I haven’t moved in with him yet, but we will also live off base and I’ll be working, so I doubt I’ll be making friends with many of them.  I’ve met a lot of the unit wives and haven’t been very impressed so far.  And that’s too bad, since it’s useful support during a deployoment.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not speaking for myself personally but two very close friends are married to marines. One lives on base and doesn’t have a single military friend but she is very introverted and not very social, on the other hand my friend who lives off the base has tons, she’s always telling me the things she’s doing. It’s completely different for the two of them, but I think its also because of their personalities.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

I have a couple, but only because they were girls I was friends with in high school and they happen to have married military men since then. I tend to avoid the military wife sect, things get a a little cliquey and high school from what i’ve seen.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@maureen9004:You’ve described my worst nightmare, but it’s inevitable.  Hope it went ok.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My BFF (since grade school) is the only other military SO friend that I have.  My husband and I are currently in an LDR, so I haven’t had the chance to make any military wife friends.  I think sometimes this makes it a lot harder because I don’t have people I can relate to.  I definitely have a good support system of friends, don’t get me wrong, just none that know exactly what I’m going through.  Sigh….

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have a couple friends that a military spouses, but not because I met them through my fiance’s co-workers.  I don’t know or hang out with any of the wives of people in his unit.  We live an hour away from the base, so I’m never involved with the stuff going on up there, I feel a little guilty but he keeps assuring me that I’m not missing anything.  

My fiance just deployed last week (for the 2nd time) πŸ™ It stinks having them gone 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve made friends with a couple.  And it helps a lot!  Now that he’s gone especially, it’s amazing to have a good friend who understands completely.   I even had a friend go with me to see him off, she is an incredible incredible person for that.  We’re all in the same boat, and reaching out is a great help. 

 

EDIT:  I forgot to mention that I don’t live with him.  I met them when I went down to visit and exchanged email addresses.  

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Not yet, but I am sure I will after we PCS to Oklahoma. We still live in  my hometown so I have some of my old friends…well I think. This wedding has kind of showed me who my friends really are. lol.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Nope, not a one. All of my friends are completely foreign to the military spouse thing. I have a lot of family members in the military, but it’s totally different when it’s your own husband. It would be nice to have some milspouse friends though. But we don’t live on base, and we maybe never will. We’ll see where the next few years take us, but personally I’m ready to stay in our hometown for a while…over the past year we’ve moved twice. BARF!!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

none of my friends from home are military, but  most of friends where we currently live are! my fiance & i both live off base. i’ve taken it upon myself to be social and meet people. i’m involved in our spouses group, a book club and try to attend squadron functions with my fiance. i think it’s important to reach out & connect with other spouses/SO’s that are in the same position. i’m currently in the middle of a deployment and i’m glad i have some friends who have been through it that i can lean on for support who understand exactly what i’m going through!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My husbands in the Canadian military but I know I dont have many friends on base. I find it really hard to get in with the other military moms and wives – they all seem to have their own groups. I have met some friendly wives, but none that I actually hang out with. Its hard because I miss all my university friends back home. I go to the mom groups and stuff up here but I find I get flustered. As soon as I talk about the degree I am finishing off none of them seem to want to talk to me. Oh well. This year is my last year of university – I figure once I am done and working I will meet more people at work lol.

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