Post # 1
So I have a lot of military in the ceramony, and I don’t know how to pick a date when I don’t even know when they will be in the country.
My fiance is Army, the Man of Honor (my brother) is Navy, the Best Man is Marines and one of the groomsmen is Army.
Anyone have any experience with this? I’d love to hear your input!
Post # 2
Why don’t you get married at the courthouse and then when you know their schedules you can plan the big wedding? Besides, they find out months in advance when they usually are getting deployed.
Post # 3
Thanks for your reply! We are both Catholic, so courthouse is a no-go. I’d like to know my date sometime soon for planning purposes… We are getting married in 2018, but we can’t do any “save the dates” until we know the date!
I’m not sure if there is any way around this, but thought I’d see what others did.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2017 - Country Cottage and Gardens
My Fiance has been out of the army for almost 8 years now so I’m a little rusty on the procedures. But there was a policy for him that his unit couldn’t deploy for so long after a deployment. Maybe look into something like that? You would have to be pretty fortunate for it to all line up perfectly since so many men are in the military. I would almost say you would have to make sure the groom will be there and then potentially just go with the flow if a groomsman is out of town. Good luck! That really is challenging (much like all military policy).
Post # 5
That’s hard with so many important people in the military! I would say to pick the date that works best for FI’s schedule, and hope all are able to be present. Unfortunately, there isn’t much more you can do with that, when planning all the way out to 2018! If it was sooner, you’d know a few months in advance about a deployment for all of them.
Post # 6
I agree with russley :
. Between now and 2018, folks may receive new orders, to go different units, etc. If you have some folks you really want to make sure are at your wedding, you can ask them if they know their unit’s deployment rotation. However, nothing is ever solid in the military, and there’s always the chance something could come up. If some of them are at shore or non-deploying billets, then that greatly increases the odds that you won’t have to worry about them being overseas. If you’re worried, I’d ask them if they have any inkling of what their chances are of deploying in 2018, though they may not know either.
My matron of honor is a Navy pilot, and I’m well aware that she could wind up called away on a detachment. But it’s very difficult to predict in some cases, so we’ll just keep our fingers crossed.
Post # 7
We got married at Christmas/New Year time as this was the only time we could guarantee Fiance could take leave. I would just work around his schedule and not try and base your date off anyone else’s too much as it is so unpredicable. We had a whole company of guys who couldnt come to our wedding as they were deployed, but it would have worked the same way for another company if we waited for them to come home. That said, their deployment rotations are common knowledge and I would have thought an unexpected deployment is highly unlikely.
Post # 8
we had a catholic wedding also. pick a date that will work best for you and your fiance and just cross your fingers that it will work out for everyone else. really, there’s not much you can do- orders can change from one day to the next, so the date that works for everyone right now might not work for everyone next week. my husband was a marine, my brother is air force, and we had an arch of sabers at our wedding, so there were several members of the military involved in my wedding.
we set a date a year in advance, by then you have a pretty good idea of who will be where, but again, it’s the military…nothing is for sure unless it’s already happened. i felt like i was holding my breath the whole time i was planning.
Post # 9
I’m dealing with this issue right now as well! Most likely going to have to get married sometime in 2018. My finance found out he’s getting deployed next June and we’re nervous about when he’ll actually make it back. We do plan on doing a civil cermony before he leaves. I’m just frustrated because most of my friends have no experience and keep bugging me about a 2018 wedding. My current plan is to pick a date in 2018 and just cross my fingers it works out.
Post # 10
I am also dealing with a similar issue. I’ve been advised to book the dates that suit my fiance and I, and hope for the best with everyone else being able to attend. I still have no idea what we are going to do, that’s why I’ve found this forum. I hope it works out for you!