(Closed) MIL’s dress looks like mine!

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What kind of relationship do you have with your FMIL? She might be just as appalled that her dress is so similar to yours.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

Is her dress also white? If not, I don’t think it’s anything to worry about.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

In that case I agree with Rainbow. Unless the dress is white I wouldn’t worry too much about it. You’re going to be standing next to your new husband for most of the day, not your Future Mother-In-Law. People won’t notice too much.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think you have to decide then if it is worth it to you to bring it up to her.  She knowingly picked out a very similar dress for whatever reason.  Maybe she was trying to just go with the theme or maybe she is trying to outshine you. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Can you share pictures of both? Maybe we, as outsiders, can give you feedback on if they really look similar enough to risk saying something, or if we (as potential wedding guests) would never notice the similarity.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

From looking at the two dresses I can see why you are concerned but I don’t think your guests will even notice. If you’re issue is her looking better, you are the bride and will be the most beautiful one there on your wedding day.

But, if you are going to be uncomfortable on your wedding day then I think it might be best to talk to your Mother-In-Law. This is your one and only day and you should feel like a princess and not be self conscious at all.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Professor…the dresses look totally different IMO. The ruching is totally different and with the jacket the dresses are even MORE different. I honestly don’t think you have anything to worry about. Both dresses are beautiful in different ways and YOU are the bride so of course all eyes are going to be on you.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I can understand how you zeroed in on the ruching, but honestly, I don’t think they are that similar. Yours is ruched all the way through the hips, a slight mermaid, and the ruching all goes in the same direction. Her dress has a jewels under the bust, multi-directional ruching, and a more A-line silhouette. The shrug also makes it seem more different, so maybe you could encourage her to wear it if she isn’t already. I don’t think you have anything to worry about, though! Your dress is gorgeous, and all eyes will be on the bride!

Edit — haha I love how we all wrote “all eyes will be on the bride” within a minute of each other (posting at the same time)

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If the main thing is about your comfort then I’d speak to your Future Mother-In-Law about it. There’s nothing wrong with saying that you already feel a bit self-conscious in your dress and you think that your FMIL’s dress is very similar and would she consider wearing something else to the wedding? The worst thing that she can say is “no” right? And you can cross that bridge when you come to it.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park

The dresses look completetly different. If I was a guest at your wedding, I wouldn’t think they were similar other than the fact that they’re both long dresses. And there’s no way that your Mother-In-Law will be able to outshine the bride, even if she wants to. Now, if she were wearing white, I’d be worried. But I don’t think they’re similar, nor do I think it’s worth it to bring it up to your Mother-In-Law.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

IMO they don’t look alike at all. Her ruching is vertical and  your’s sideway. I’m sure you will look fabulous in your dressand nobody is going to notice the ruching.

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