(Closed) Mine is a size smaller she says

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Get over it
    Move on : (65 votes)
    45 %
    She aint good : (73 votes)
    51 %
    Indifferent : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    dude wtf is this chick’s problem??  so weird.  just ignore her.  you can’t argue with a crazy person.  what does your brother say about this?

    Post # 5
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    869 posts
    Busy bee

    So say something to her -“ummm, did you really mean to say those comments? Because, ouch, they kind of hurt and I really like you and want To have a great friendship with you.” Say something, please. I truly believe that half of the world’s problems could be resolved if we just talk to each other.  Best wishes!

    Post # 6
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    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would just let it go. The only person making an issue out of it is you. Unless you go around telling everybody, I guarantee nobody will even notice. 

    Post # 7
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    1621 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t think her buying the same dress (from the previous thread) is a big deal at all….because 1) I don’t think anyone will really notice, except you and perhaps a few others, and 2) it’s her choice.  BUT, I think her comment about the size of yours vs. hers is rude and hurtful, whether she meant it or not.  

    Post # 8
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    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    How inapropriate and rude! Hopefully it’s just that she’s so excited about it she doesn’t think before speaking. Maybe a heart to heart about how her comments are hurtful would help?

    Post # 10
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    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    What a dick.  

    Post # 11
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    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Sounds like she’s either:

    a. Insecure

    b. Sees you as a competition / benchmark

    c. just really really insensitive

    Honestly though, I am leaning more towards a+b. I would probably vent to my Darling Husband, get over it (not easy, but try) and next time she brings it up just say, yeah sure sure, then make an excuse and back away. 

     

    Post # 12
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    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    And by the way, I would probably feel a bit flattered the fact that out of 1million dresses in the world she picked yours. After your wedding. That must mean you are the trendsetter and she’s the follower *evil smile. You have inspired her.

    Post # 13
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    862 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    At first, I defended this girl on your other post because I gave her the benefit of the doubt, but now it seems to me like she really is just jealous of you.  Even if she isn’t actually jealous, she sure is ACTING like it!  This was a very rude and uncalled-for comment that she has made now.  Don’t let her get to you, though–she’ll enjoy it too much if you do!

    Post # 14
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    65 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    You could always say something like this: “it doesn’t matter what size it is, it’ll always be my dress….”

    Post # 15
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    When she talks about doing X differently, just smile and sweetly say, “I think that’s a very good idea. It will help disguise the fact that you couldn’t find a unique dress.”

    And when/if she asks you any more questions about what you did, how you wore it, etc, don’t answer. Information is power. Just say, “I don’t think I should influence your look more than I already have. I’ll leave it to you to work out how you’re going to wear it.”

    Post # 16
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    1839 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    i think that was ridiculous for her to say, but i voted for move on too b/c what welse are you going to do?

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