Post # 1
ok so me and my husband just got married and we made no secret that immediately after our wedding we would start TTC.
Well now I CAN’T DEAL with people who are constantly trying to “catch me” acting pregnant lol. I was on a boat the other day with a mild headache and very slight sea sickness and two people suggested in a “aren’t I hilarious” kind of way that I must be pregnant, so of course everyone turns around and looks to gauge my reaction.
For the record I’m not pregnant, but if I was I’m a horrible liar so it actually annoys me that people can’t just keep these comments to themselves until I’m ready to tell them I’m pregnant.
Did any of you ever have to deal with people trying to get the inside scoop on your pregnancy before even YOU knew?
What did you say/do to make this stop happening??
Post # 3
This makes me crazy. i’m not pregnant or looking to get pregnant, but I have a sister who had a ridiculous amount of trouble not getting pregnant, but staying pregnant so I have a different perspective on things like this. You never know what another person/couple is going through. The couple may be actively trying, but for whatever reason it’s not working and people questioning them about it doesn’t help.
I guess I just wish people would mind their own business.
Post # 4
@caits615: Agreed! And I fully admit to being guilty of this in the past but these women are old enough to know better, to know that couples can have problems and you never know what’s going on in someone else’s TTC life!
Post # 5
I think if you make it known you are trying to kind of bring it on yourself as people are naturally curious…
Post # 6
Yeah I think its really inconsiderate for people to constantly be asking about your TTC progress, I think until you announce it, its off limits
Post # 7
@alphagam84: I agree that I opened that can of worms but I’m still torn bc as an adult I know how it all wirks and how iffy it could be. I like that people are rooting for me by it doesn’t mean I want to invite everyone and their brother along on my TTC journey…I wish people could be happy for me but not pressure me you know?
Post # 8
Sorry, that must be really annoying. 🙁
This is why we’re not telling anyone that we’re TTC.
Post # 9
@laceandpearls10:Oh absolutely! We just got married two months ago and already people are asking me about kids and I’ve told them all it will be awhile. But I know how people are so when we do TTC I won’t be telling a soul!!!!
Post # 10
This is exactly why I think it’s a bad idea to tell people you are TTC.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I get this a lot. It just makes me irritated. depending on my mood, I’ll reply with either a funny, snappy of kind of rude reply.
Post # 12
I get this a lot too and no one knows we are ttc. They just think because we are married the next step is to pop out kiddos.
In your case, since people know, maybe you could say something like it’s in God’s hands… It usually stops the questions. At this point, it’s very much how DH and I feel.
Post # 13
I’ve been married for 9 weeks and we got pregnant right away on our honeymoon but I miscarried at just over 7 weeks. Other than immediate family, we didn’t tell anyone we are pregnant so hardly anyone knows about the MC. Now when I see people they keep asking me when we’re going to have kids, etc. I ran into someone the other day who asked me if there were any babies on the way yet and it hurt me so much to tell her “no”. Little does she know that if she’d asked me the same question a couple weeks earlier I would have been bursting with joy because I WAS pregnant.
Personally, I would never ask anyone if they were pregnant or TTC…I think that’s very personal.
Post # 14
@As_You_Wish: Sorry that happened to you 🙁 Hugs.
Post # 15
This is exactly why we are not telling anyone that we plan to TTC right after the wedding. Only Brother-In-Law & SIL know, because I know they won’t say anything and we plan to tell them early on as they have 2 kids and SIL is a nurse so I plan to asking her any questions/bringing up concerns I have with her from the get go.
I wouldn’t fault people too much though, it comes from an honest place of being happy and excited for you! Just tell them you’ve decided to put off TTC for a few months (and don’t), they will probably let up.
Post # 16
I can understand their curiousity given you let people know you were trying, but I also think people should be more tactful about it. Why on earth do people think it is funny to ask that question in a crowd of people so you are the center of attention? They have no idea what you are going through in the process. If they really want to know, they could politely and discretely ask you how it is coming along and it gives you the chance to tell them your progress or just politely deflect any more questions.